One thing that I hear a lot of women complain about is the game player. I've met my fair share.
We all know that guy: he's never really in a relationship, but he's got a million women up in the air. He's usually good-looking, charming, funny and great in the sack: everything you'd want in a boyfriend. But he just won't commit to one person.
Personally, I don't think he's as much of a big bad wolf as most people think. Guys like this are usually pretty transparent. If he's only able to see you on Tuesdays and Thursdays, won't give you his home phone number or tell you where he works, he's not super busy, shy or trying to take things slow: he's probably got several other women in his life. (Maybe one of them is his wife.)
I "dated" one such man while between relationships. My first inclination as a serial monogamist was to try to lure him into being my boyfriend. But I quickly realized that 1) It wasn't happening and 2) It was actually hotter the way things were. There was no settling down with us: every time we went out, he was in wine and dine mode. Every night together was like the first night, because when your whole relationship is based on the high of sex, there's no room for half measures. Without getting into the details, I did stuff with him that I'd never done to anyone before.
Was it love? Hell no. But it was fun! If I had played the victim, it could have been one of those "Women who love too much" stories. Recognizing him for what he was -- a fun detour -- allowed me the opportunity to enjoy being single. It's hard to care about your official dating status when you're having great sex and being made to feel gorgeous.
I'd recommend it to any woman who's feeling a little burnt out relationship-wise. Don't hate the player: play the game!
