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Sex Machine: Coming Too Soon - Normal or Just Another Reason For Some to B*tch?

Posted by spjv840

 

Some women get mad when their partners come too quickly. I think "coming too quickly" is another reason for bitchy women to bitch at their men.

I've had lovers in the past who actually apologize for their quick release and I always tell them 'Don't worry about it' and get this -- I actually mean it! You don't see women apologizing when they come after five minutes of oral sex or sex, so why do men apologize for it? Is it really that big of a deal to women?

Personally, and this might just be me, but I'd rather my man come after five minutes of fucking me than dragging it out one or two hours and then being done for the night. I remember some guys who just want to fuck all night long and after three hours it's really not so fun anymore. My vag hurts, I'm tired and probably nearing hangover time and the last thing I want to do is be bouncing around on a dick for three hours.

I can understand how some women can get mad if the dick isn't even out of the pants yet before it shoots its load, then you might have problems and reason to be a bit miffed at the situation, but getting mad at a man for coming after fucking you for a few minutes is just uptight bitch territory. Do you think a man would get mad at a woman for coming too soon? Doubtful.

 I come quickly, usually through oral sex or a good finger fuck. Sure, sometimes it takes me a while if I'm stressed or just not in the mood, but the majority of the time, five to six minutes and I'm done and ready for round two.

What are your thoughts on coming "too quickly", Nerve readers?


Comments

layalally said:

I must agree. I might be a little frustrated if it were just a few minutes ALL  the time, and a longer session can be nice, but I'll take 5 really hot minutes over endless, increasingly-sore-and-boring pounding any day. And, yeah, I don't take for ever either. Plus, a "premature" ejaculation now and then let's me know I've still got it. :-P

January 14, 2009 11:54 AM

layalally said:

In general, I think that it's considered alarmingly acceptable to bag on guy's bodies and their various functions. I've been with men who were really good lovers but kept on getting shy and embarrassed about all kinds of things--coming too soon, or taking "too long" it if was a blowjob, ejaculating anywhere near me because they were worried I'd think it was "gross". I had to wonder who the hell they'd been with before. "Nice" men are supposed to think that female genitalia and everything it does is beautiful and hot. This seems reasonable to me, but it's got to work both ways, folks.

-LydiaSarah (had to change my nerve name for some reason...)

January 14, 2009 12:07 PM

airheadgenius said:

I definitely have no need for someone to keep screwing me for ages, at least without switching it up, but what's the difference between bitching about men coming too quickly and bitching about men coming too slowly? You're still bitching aren't ya?

January 14, 2009 12:37 PM

amboabe said:

It depends greatly on the position for me. Any kind of bottom position (lololololololol) I can go almost indefinitely. On top it can be a matter of minutes. There's so many more stimulants, moving muscles, and points of contact, it's hard not to get carried away.

January 14, 2009 3:57 PM

jenfizz said:

It's not like the fun has to end when he cums so no problem.

January 14, 2009 4:22 PM

margarita said:

Hey girls, don't cry because your man's maxed out at thirty-minutes... Quickies are one thing, but, hey, everything in moderation.

I want someone to ask: how much is the orgasm the point?

January 17, 2009 2:16 PM

weirdbeard said:

I'm with Amboabe. My last ladyfriend basically refused anything but my fucking her from behind.  Whatever it was about the way we matched up physically sent me over in no time, everytime. I really didn't like it. Partially her near refusal to take even a mutual role in the 'work' of it all, but mostly because I didnt like feeling like i was always disappointing her.  Not that I'd leave her without an O, but still.  Even removed from whether or not she ended the night satisfied, it made me feel like That Guy who fucks quick and rolls off, done.

January 21, 2009 12:01 AM

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