Oh I am!  I am so damned hot I'm scaring away any potential dates!  Apparently...

It's worth it for women. They can join all the free dating sites and are in so much demand that they can totally pick and choose from a huge pool of "talent".

In fact I think women probably can do much better out of Internet dating than they can generally out of real life introductions, etc. Plus none of that beery slobbering business to worry about.

Men, on the other hand. Just give up. And please stop sending me pictures of your cocks.

i totally agree with you there air! (funny enough, i was looking at that exact charles atlas picture a few days back for a poster i was making...i didn't use that picture though).

being a science major, i rarely have time to meet guys outside of my classes. in addition, i like dating guys outside of my circle, someone like an artist or a lit freak-but they tend to reside on the other side of campus and are...well never around because they don't have mandatory lab hours.

i don't know if i'm hot or not, but do get a fair share of offers from men on dating sites and in clubs. at twenty-two years of age, i don't see how dating should be only for the "not hot" or only a certain generation.

Wait... are we talking hot as in looks or a serious sweating problem???

I've dated a couple of very hot women off this site. As a photographer my definition of hot is pretty developed. But I would have only wanted a relationship with one or two of them whom I had good chemistry with. Bad luck, personal issues, hectic schedule etc... screwed some of those up (basically me). The others were kind of even more unreliable than me or we didn't really hit it off.

But for the most part, the thing about the hot women I met online and the single ones I know in regular life is that like you Abigail, they have busy complicated lives, often work from home, travel quite a lot, but even if office-bound are surrounded by women, gay men, married men or single straight men they're not attracted to. Inasmuch don't we all get more and more complex as we get older - we're attracted to fewer people and don't fall in love as easily? Anyway, who has the time, energy or money to regularly hit bars especially if you're in your late 30's/early 40's? When I do I'm with a group of friends and focused on them.

I think Zeitgeisty's opinion is ridiculous - probably typically so - trying to court controversy. Hot people are as prone to loneliness and dislocation as anyone else. Some hot people are always in relationships and have the men lined up just as less hot people are.

Final point in this incoherent stream of thoughts...first off it's winter - cold with a foot of snow in the offing. Second of all (because there's no such word as secondly) hot can be nice but I think the women whom I find most attractive are cute, smart, creative and talented (not in the Zeitgeisty sense of the word). Maybe I'm growing up a bit but I guess I'm hoping to somehow find someone that inspires me. Cute is undeniably important to me, sorry it just is but HOT (what is hot anyway?) usually means trouble and disappointment.      

Hey Zeitgeisty, you've the ideal - very cute, interesting & intelligent girlfriend found the good old fashioned way - well she picked you up but same difference. Inasmuch it's natural to feel a little condescending about the counter-intuitive world of online rotisserie dating. I don't think I'm too lazy to date offline or even to be bothered with the online version - I'm just a bit burned out and weary of budding relationships that fade out. I think there's a law of diminishing returns with dating that the relative ease of online dating accelerates - so one ends up going through the motions and even if you meet someone you actually like, your reactions are kind of jaded which undermines everything! The circles of hell need to be amended to include online dating.

Tell ya what... It seems there will always be a stigma to personal ads.  It's neither increased nor decreased since 3 line texts in local papers (my first office job out of school was coordinating a personal ad section for a large NY area paper). While I probably date less online or off than a lot of you, by far the most attractive woman I've dated in years I met through Nerve.  

I don't think you can ascribe a set of rules to what attractive people do or don't do.  It really is about convenience.  We're adults, most of us with busy, complicated lives.  I admit to being really superficial about looks also, whether that's fair or not... it is what it is.  

I checked out the male competition in my age range.  It was an even mix.  Some made me feel like Charles Atlas.  Some made me feel like Charles Laughton.  Oooh the humanity.  I have hair anyway and might be considered a catch by someone looking for a big fat rockabilly.  

Oops sorry about the name - don't know where that came from - it's not even a Freudian slip since I don't know anyone with that name. Thanks for the crush! Yes a ton of snow! New York is gorgeous when it gets a thick blanket - have fun with the kids!    

I bring what I bring wherever I go. Internet dating has worked out exactly like every other approach I have ever taken has.......the difficulty I have in connecting with people or fears or general cautiousness still rules the day. Complicated lives, kids, jobs, whatever are all just excuses. The older I get the more like myself I become and the less easy (or important) it is to make connections.  Whining, panic, withdrawal don't help any.

The big difference between face to face and personals or internet sites is that chemistry has a better chance. "Hotness" is so much more than physical and is hard (for me) to ascertain in two dimensions. Of course figuring out the reasons why something doesn't work is just another way of insuring that it won't.......

Just wait until you hit the retirement home. You won't need anyone at ALL (except to wipe your ass and spoonfeed you apple pulp).