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Confessions, Personals, Comments - please don't make me cringe

Posted by airheadgenius



You know that reaction - when your nose kinda curls up and you squint a bit?
A serious cringe might give rise to an involuntary shrugging of one shoulder or even an audible "ewww".

For example, as a reaction to the bright spark that commented on Ambo's blog "Whoa as me"

Or the many, many times I've read "wa la" (yep, that's voilĂ  folks)

Maybe even the Nerve confessor apparently looking for a physiatrist. And even though physiatrist perhaps shouldn't be a word, apparently it is, but it's not usually used in conjunction with "because I am a really disturbed person" is it? (It appears I don't have a significant problem with run on sentence usage)

All those little literary quibbles pale in comparison to this particular cringe inducing phenomenon though: 

The thing that makes me cringe on Nerve more than anything is when I get a suggestive email from a man I have no interest in whatsoever.
If it's innocuous and uninteresting, then it makes no difference to my day at all. Just another "hello" from the ether.

But when it has sexual connotations and it's someone I wouldn't get naked with for a bet, it knots my shoulders up to no end.
Like todays "Let me spank you" from some chump who "prefers not to say" his height and weight and, if that wasn't enough, he's adorned himself with a beanie hat that would make your average pedophile run screaming for the hills.

I guess it takes all sorts though right? Anyone looking for a chubby dwarf with a distinct look of a serial killer about them, I know just the man...

 

Here are some I made earlier:
Too hot to internet date?
Bed
Where do these losers come from?
How many sexual partners have you had?
The time I dated Zeitgeisty
F*ck off yer ol git

 

Another daily un-knob in honour of cringe factor

 

 


Comments

the pulchritudinous pedant said:

"Whoa as me" had to have been a mere typo.  "Wa la" is fairly egregious, I don't think I've ever seen that.  Usually it winds up being "viola."  But these things aren't indicative of stupidity PER SAY but are at the very least symptoms of lack of education, laziness, ECK CETERA.  It's easy to jump to conclusions and assume that someone's a LOOSER just because of a few careless mistakes, but for all INTENSIVE PURPOSES it may be best to let these things slide.  THERE only human.  YOUR only human TO.

Isn't it IRONIC?

March 3, 2009 10:22 PM

airheadgenius said:

pedant - you have fairly put me off my cocoa. Woe to Whoa would have to require an awfully unusual keyboard for it to be a typo don't you think? Ur write tho. I put a lot of it down to the fact that English is not the first language of Americans.

Incidentally, I almost wrote cereal killer, but was afraid the irony would be lost.

March 3, 2009 10:46 PM

the pulchritudinous pedant said:

I was thinking that they (whoa and woe) are both actual words, and was using "typo" to mean more of a mind slip than a finger slip.  Sometimes we type the wrong word even when we know better.  I suppose I was trying to be kind.

But now that I think about it -- don't the kids nowadays use "whoa" as an adjective, as in, "Wow, that's like WHOA"?  ("Like" being an intensifier in this case.)  In which case "whoa as me" might well have been completely intentional, and possibly even meaningful, depending on the context.  But I'm probably being too kind again.

March 3, 2009 11:12 PM

zeitgeisty said:

'Hey there hot stuff, I love your photos. It looks like you've been blessed with a treasure trove of luscious sweater meat. You're like an angel from above with those funbags. Hmmm... Seems like you've got a colossal rump as well. Congratulations on your scrumptious melons and firm shitter. Wanna meet up sometime?'

March 3, 2009 11:25 PM

airheadgenius said:

pedant - I tried to rationalise it with the "whoa" as intentional and wondered if the "as" was in fact meant to be "ass" and that it was some kind of new fangled exclamation, but realised I was clutching at straws.

As are you. But how nice to know we both have mature, kind bones to our bodies? Or is that bownz two are bodeez?

March 3, 2009 11:30 PM

airheadgenius said:

zeit - you couldn't make me cringe if you tried. I am immune to intentional cringewittery. It's the inadvertent stuff, like say the self indulgent ramblings of a pseudo intellectual, that kink my bones. And not in a good way.

March 3, 2009 11:44 PM

LydiaSarah said:

Ha! "Wa la?" I don't know if I've ever seen that one but it's pretty amazing.  Glad I'm not the only one who flinched at that "whoa as me". Some other favorites of mine are "mean either" and "for all intensive purposes." Also when people say "literally" when they actually mean "figuratively". As in "My eyes literally popped out of my head!" *twitch*

But, come on, don't make this an American thing. I've traveled plenty in Britain and have personally observed that Americans are not the only ones capable of saying/writing embarrassingly illiterate things.

March 4, 2009 3:27 AM

LydiaSarah said:

hehe, just caught that "whoa ass me" theory. It may indeed be a stretch but you might have just coined a new phrase, AHG.

March 4, 2009 3:37 AM

airheadgenius said:

lydia - I was making a joke about the name of the language. My people speak English. Your people speak American.

March 4, 2009 6:36 AM

shadygrrrlinny said:

ha- that ain't nothin'. I had a guy once write to me at 7 a.m. asking if I would come over and fist him, then pee on him.

Ad "definAtely" to the list. Please.

I will giggle all day about "sweater meat"....

March 4, 2009 8:53 AM

zeitgeisty said:

It's true, I'm not even some pretentious anglophile - although I do love the Beatles - but the English do indeed speak English, and most people in this country speak 'American'... I actually find it an embarrassment.

I mean, even the 'lower classes' in England speak with a refinement and articulation that is way beyond what we've got here.

March 4, 2009 9:21 AM

nicknickleby said:

Alas, a great many people on the other side of the pond are just as semi-literate as they are over here. Of course it's a matter of education.

"It'd be nice to think that the 'lower classes' in England speak with a refinement and articulation that is way beyond what we've got here". Actually it's probably about the same.

However the French are head and shoulders above both our countries - having a very strong, highly disciplined public education system. It's no coincidence most people also have that beautiful classic cursive handwriting.

I've seen the phonetic Wha-la used sardonically (or wha-lar - National Lampoon's European Vacation) and I love to throw it in now and then to mitigate my general pompousness.

"Trouser Meat" is a common English phrase (best pronounced in a working class accent "trowzer-mee". "Sweater meat" is a fine addition to the rich cannon of the English language.

March 4, 2009 10:56 AM

nicknickleby said:

One thing that does bug me, is people butchering idioms and simple expressions. Particularly jarring is:

"I could care less"

No you fuckwit! COULDN'T!! I COULDN'T care less!! Otherwise you WOULD care less. Ughhh!!

By the way Airy, two particularly well educated, literate and pedantic (English) friends are launching a website soon that concentrates on the minutiae of words, grammar etc... I'll send you the info.  

March 4, 2009 11:05 AM

rasqual17 said:

Thank you, Nick, that started sometime in the 70's and has held on like a cyborg pitbull since.

 I've encountered 'shivalry/'shiveree is not dead' a couple of times, yikes.

 Oh yeah, and 'taking things for granite.'

March 4, 2009 1:01 PM

zeitgeisty said:

How about, 'I could give a fuck'...?

That actually kinda works for some reason...

Like.. you COULD give a fuck, but you don't want to... In fact, it even works better than I couldn't give a fuck, which implies even if you wanted to give a fuck you couldn't...

March 4, 2009 1:39 PM

monica canonical said:

Ah, the "rich cannon of the English language."  It has such a full-bodied and resounding kaboom!

Sorry, Nick, couldn't resist.

March 4, 2009 5:25 PM

nicknickleby said:

Oops!  

March 4, 2009 8:24 PM

quarry naif said:

That was MARBLE?  I took it for granite!

March 4, 2009 8:40 PM

Tiptree said:

"You hardly care for me, " she said.

"It could be worse," I said.

"How?" she asked.

"Well," I said, "I could care less."

March 4, 2009 10:34 PM

airheadgenius said:

shady!!! Long time no commenty. But did you do it??? On the edge of my seat here.

zeit - our lower classes are your upper classes. Just sayin'

(Actually don't mean it though. Jus bein uppity)

nick - it is not about the same. I just fell out of love with you. Although you did claw yourself back from the brink with "couldn't care less". I've been explaining that one ever since I got here. My people - you know those "just about the same ones" at least get that right. Or should I say write.

Are you referring to the good old "one eyed traa-ser snake" perchance?

Oh and do pass on the pedants site. Look forward to it.

rasqual - I cannot stand that people are taking things "for granite". Practically suicidal here.

zeit - waaaay too much thought went into that one!

quarry - hahaha. A royal chuckle at that one.

tiptree - that's almost poetic.

ok, nightie night beautiful people. Must go to sleep.

March 4, 2009 11:24 PM

profrobert said:

"Spitting image" is one of my favorites.  Makes me want to hock up a loogie.

"Irregardless."  Would that be synonymous with "regardful"?

All bear/bare confusion: the right to bare arms, grin and bare it (though that one presents intriguing possibilities).

"Clearly":  If it's so clear from context, you don't need to say it is clear; if it's not clear from context, saying it's clear doesn't add anything.

"Needless to say": Ditto.

Use of "they/their" as a singular, neuter pronoun (unless you're British):  "Management said they are not going to lay off any workers."  "Management" is singular, and the second clause should begin "it is."  If you're not from the Commonwealth and would say "Management are not laying anyone off," keep it singular throughout.

Needless to say, I'll think of more of these throughout the day.

March 5, 2009 2:29 PM

zeitgeisty said:

The term "spittin' image" is a shortening of the original "spit and image," which means that you are both the stuff that your parents are made of (the spit) and you look like them, too (the image). There are many folk etymologies (fanciful stories made up to explain the usage), but this is the only one that has any basis in fact. Webster's says that one of the older uses dispenses with the image, as in "You are the very spit of your father," i.e., he might just have spit you out.  

Some of the folk etymologies have the spit (expectoration) and image (a doll) used in a black magic ceremony to clone you; others cite "spat" (the offspring of shellfish) as part of the origin.  According to word sleuths William and Mary Morris, some linguistic experts think "spit" is derived from "spirit," noting that the southern pronunciation of the letter r is sometimes indistinct. In other words, the original would have been, "She's the very spirit and image of her mother." Other authorities favor the phrase "spitting image" means a "speaking likeness" and reference a 1602 source in support of this.  Personally I spit on these ideas . . . well, that's put it a bit strongly. But I know who I believe.  

March 5, 2009 2:33 PM

profrobert said:

Right, "spit 'n' image" is correct, not "spitting image," which is about what I was complaining.  The people who say or write the latter would never say "rocking roll" instead of the correct "rock 'n' roll."

March 5, 2009 3:47 PM

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