Love Machine: Must Be Willing to Lie About Where We Met

re: Love Machine: Must Be Willing to Lie About Where We Met

Thea — Mon, 13 Oct 2008 02:23:22 GMT

Online dating is so wonderfully convenient but you miss out on that sweaty-palm fear of how to approach and how to make the other person realize you should be together, from that sense of the instantly familiar face that you mentioned.

So much potential for actually knowing someone hedges on the chance of surprise first contact. And sometimes it feels like the nervousness and uncertainty of meeting organically (can we coin this phrase already?) are what make people even care about one another. I can empathize with the way you've described bland, unremarkable dates with decent enough women who nonetheless just inspire something like ennui.

It is a great post. People who need to lie about how we met are cowards, and that's an instant turnoff.

re: Love Machine: Must Be Willing to Lie About Where We Met

amboabe — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 04:33:41 GMT

Yeah, it's definitely from their adult contemporary phase, they sound so clean and produced on that record.

re: Love Machine: Must Be Willing to Lie About Where We Met

E-Claire — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 04:32:00 GMT

I can admit to lying to all my friends and family about how I met my ex. Although they saw through it entirely, the lies just got thinner and thinner after 18 months.

I couldn't stand to be judged for it, or for people to have doubts in me and my relationship PURELY because of how we met. I think, for me, it was because the relationship meant so much to me, it was my first serious relationship and I after a time I moved across the country to be with him. I think my friends and family must have sensed this after a while, because they never let on that they knew we had met online.

I suppose I shouldn't have cared about what other people think. In this case I wasn't embarrassed about it, I just didn't need the doubt! I'd moved across the country for the guy, I had enough of my own.

Anyway, great post. I've also wondered how and why "drunken hook-ups" are perceived as more sincere than on line dating.

re: Love Machine: Must Be Willing to Lie About Where We Met

zeitgeisty — Wed, 08 Oct 2008 00:57:06 GMT

just bought Speaking in tongues on vinyl over the weekend... Kind of funky little album, has a few great songs on it.. naive melody being the best one...

re: Love Machine: Must Be Willing to Lie About Where We Met

Forger — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 20:38:55 GMT

I know a lot of younger people who know that song. Of course, they tend to do a lot of blow.

re: Love Machine: Must Be Willing to Lie About Where We Met

vix_en25 — Tue, 07 Oct 2008 18:28:49 GMT

I love that song and Im 28!

good post