Sex Machine: My Kingdom for a Boner

re: Sex Machine: My Kingdom for a Boner

Gelfling — Wed, 05 Nov 2008 18:59:34 GMT

The increasing dysfunction with age is the opposite of my personal experience - when i was in my late teens and early twenties, i had no BFs who didn't have some sort of dysfunction. But that was over a decade ago, and since i was about 25 i've not known anyone to have an issue.

The point being, one person's experience is not enough data to project an entire trend.

re: Sex Machine: My Kingdom for a Boner

askmeanything — Tue, 28 Oct 2008 18:33:35 GMT

Same thing can happen for women except it's probably less dramatic. With a new partner I can become sopping wet at the drop of a hat. In an established relationship, it sometimes takes a while any lubrication to happen even though I am mentally turned on. Then I start to worry about it like, "He's going to want to put it in soon and I won't be wet, it won't work.." which doesn't help.

re: Sex Machine: My Kingdom for a Boner

Toluca_86 — Mon, 27 Oct 2008 23:57:46 GMT

I've known some dudes who said there ED moments were attributable to things other than not being attracted enough to the woman. So, I think it varies...

re: Sex Machine: My Kingdom for a Boner

bizzarissima — Mon, 27 Oct 2008 23:40:28 GMT

Maybe for certain men it becomes increasingly important to be really attracted to the woman in order to get no 'scary bouts', as loo points out. Sex with my lover who is in his late 30s comes after mental or visual stimulation most of the times and less through the usual skin progressive pattern [kissing etc.]. It's a bit on the aestheticised side of pleasure, but we equally enjoy it, more playful and demanding like that.

I made at the very beginning this harmful assumption, that he might suffer of ED, but then I just observed him very carefully and quickly got what I wanted, without creating too much useless frustration.

And then, I like challenges and provocations, so things never manage to get too predictable or repetitive fortunately. Quality over quantity remains my ground rule. ;)

re: Sex Machine: My Kingdom for a Boner

thatasianygirl — Mon, 27 Oct 2008 17:53:04 GMT

if it really concerns you that much, i suggest you read these: hugoschwyzer.net . then again, what do i know?

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loobetchka — Mon, 27 Oct 2008 14:55:12 GMT

Yeah exactly.

I've had a few scary bouts in my life, but it was always because I wasn't really attracted to the woman and my body was just reacting to that.

Once it's in your head though, it's fucking hard to shake out.

re: Sex Machine: My Kingdom for a Boner

zeitgeisty — Mon, 27 Oct 2008 14:19:36 GMT

This friend of yours you speak of in the first paragraph... Her penis troubles couldn't have anything to do with her could it?