Love Machine: Let's Make Babies

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amboabe — Thu, 06 Nov 2008 02:03:20 GMT

sarah: you've got a bright future ahead of you, my friend. go join peace corps, i dare you...

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Sarah LaBrie — Mon, 03 Nov 2008 20:09:06 GMT

Um, are we the same person? I graduated from college a year ago, and I read scripts for a warship talent agency in Los Angeles and I have existential crises at stop lights every day. Or, I did, anyway, until I started taking the bus.

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airheadgenius — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 22:26:12 GMT

You could go volunteer at a hospital or clinic - plenty opportunities to hold babies there. If you work long hours and like to catch up on sleep, single parenting is not for you. The last time I slept through the night was early 2001.

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profrobert — Thu, 30 Oct 2008 20:38:17 GMT

To echo Toluca, yes, holding my son -- and having him look into my eyes trying to figure out what the hell this big thing is that's holding him -- is as good as it gets, I also hold him while he's puking on my shoulder, peeing on my hands, screaming bloody murder while my wife and I try to figure out if he's hungry, poopy, gassy, cold, hot and/or full of boogers. It's a lot of work, but I wouldn't trade it for anything.

On the general topic, I'd felt a need for a child for much of my adult life. I finally realized that was a really bad situation -- what I wanted was ProfRobert 2.0, a better version of myself whom I could love to make up for all the terrible things I'd done in my life. It wasn't until I realized I actually hadn't done much in the way of terrible things and that I didn't need redemption through a child that I was able to release the need and could say simply that I wanted someone whom I could love unconditionally and without expectation. Two years later, here he is in all his amazingness.

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Toluca_86 — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 17:31:37 GMT

I think the most important thing to be aware of when you decide to have kids is that moreso than holding a cute baby in your arms you should expect to do half the work, half the yuckiness, half the sleepless nights with the baby crying, etc. Otherwise the mom will get bitter (understandably) and you'll understand why so many men see wives and children as burdens taking away their fun, single days.

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Thea — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 15:38:29 GMT

This post is so sweet. Have you ever thought about foster kids? Of course you'd still need to be in a more stable place to provide for them but it doesn't have to be a lifelong commitment. So many lost little kids need your love and accumulated wisdom, amboabe! Oh and if you do pony up the $300 for a dog, please please please adopt one from a shelter ok?

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nycgf — Wed, 29 Oct 2008 09:18:55 GMT

Yet another good post amboabe, i've never seen this topic from a male point of view.

I've read many an article about new or long time fathers expressing how amazing it is to have kids, but to express that desire to want one seems almost.....too feminine? Not sure if that is the right word, but definitely not a masculine trait.

Being of a slightly younger age (mid 20's), at this stage, I have almost no desire for kids...and it's actually hard to picture a time when I will have that desire. It's not to say that if I had kids it wouldn't be the best thing ever, like everyone says, but I'm not counting the days till mrs right comes along and we can get at it.

I'm actually pretty clucky to get a dog right now, would love more than anything to get a dog. Is this the same feeling for people who want kids?