Nerve Insider : advice

New on Nerve, 4.30.08: Sex and Dating Advice from Miss Information

Nicole Ankowski — Wed, 30 Apr 2008 15:00:00 GMT

Do you ever find yourself in this situation?

Dear Miss Information,
I'm a bisexual girl who badly needs pornography. I need to find out how to get it without having to pay for it or contracting nasty diseases on my computer. Finding pictures and videos of penises entering vaginas is easy, but finding hot girl-on-girl stuff is really hard. My definition of hot girl-on-girl does not include tweaked-out bleached-blonde leather-skinned skinny girls sucking on dildos or looking at the camera while fingering each other with talon-like nails. Call me naive, but is there any porn or soft porn where the girls might legitimately appear attracted to other girls? I've tried to talk to male friends who know the ins and outs (so to speak) of porn, but their eyes just sort of glaze over and we end up watching the girl-on-girl I described above. Please help! — Really Need Real XXX

Where to find “real porn”? Check out Miss Info’s answers to this, and so much more, in this week’s titillating, totally real column.

New on Nerve, 3.12.08: Sex and Dating Advice from Miss Information

Peter Smith — Wed, 12 Mar 2008 15:20:00 GMT

This week, Miss Info teaches religious tolerance — sexy religious tolerance — to a reader whose boyfriend won't have sex before marriage. Should she just marry him for the honeymoon?

For a lot of folks the 'no sex before marriage' rule is extremely bendy. It could mean nearly everything is fair game — even oral. Then again, it could mean no Frenching. I'd say make the absolute most of what he'll let you do. . . Above all, don't rush into something as huge as marriage just because you're horny and impatient.

Read the whole column here.

New on Nerve, 2.20.08: Sex and Dating Advice from Miss Information

Peter Smith — Wed, 20 Feb 2008 16:30:00 GMT

This week, Miss Info gets the best advice her readers have to offer:

Never take your Valentine to Chili's for Valentine's Day. Even if you have a gift card. — MM
Thanks for the heads up, MM. I used to be a potato-skin slinger myself. You guys have no idea what kind of romance went down at the Big B on Heart Day.

Read the whole column here.

New on Nerve, 1.16.08: Sex and Dating Advice from Miss Information

Peter Smith — Wed, 16 Jan 2008 15:49:00 GMT

This week, Miss Info talks down a reader upset about having slept over on a first date:

Was there some all-night sex session that I missed? Did I miss a few lines about watersports and hamster bondage? You went on a date, drank some booze, and made what the overwhelming majority of non-celebutante adults would consider to be a responsible decision not to drink and drive. Then you took the goody two-shoes act a few steps further by refraining from sexual intimacy before you're ready, something that's hard to do when you're all liquored up. I don't think the relationship is ruined, but all this nervous, high-strung behavior could put it in jeopardy.

Read the whole column here.

New on Nerve: 12.20.2007: Dating Advice from . . . The Holiday Market

Sarah — Thu, 20 Dec 2007 16:20:00 GMT

Happy Holidays! Today we get dating advice from the holiday market. Insider Scoop Alert! It’s the holiday market at Union Square, NYC.

Antonia Daly, 41 gives some great advice for people in relationships: “When you're in a relationship, you have to give yourself the freedom to realize that there are a lot of other people out there who might be compatible with you. It can be energizing, and make you feel more sensuous.”

Load up on all the advice on here.

New on Nerve, 12.19.2007: Sex and Dating Advice from Miss Information

Sarah — Wed, 19 Dec 2007 16:15:00 GMT

Today Miss Information counsels “Worried Mind,” who is nervous that his cock appears small next to the well-hung dude he and his girlfriend threesomed with, and “The Derrida of Dating,” who overanalyzes his dates every IM, email and MySpace message.

Key Advice: “When it comes to choosing a threesome partner, dick size is rarely the threat. Much better to have a fella with a twelve-inch schlong who respects boundaries and limits than a three-incher who's trying to schedule dates with your wife on your side.”

Further words of wisdom here.

Dating and Relationship Advice from Knife Throwers

Sarah — Thu, 13 Dec 2007 16:00:00 GMT

Today’s advice is sharp! It cuts through the BS! It’s right on target!

What can the sport of knife-throwing teach us about sex?
Knife-throwing teaches you to trust your instincts, not over-think things and develop an intuitive sense of timing. It is amazing what a difference it makes when your mind and body are actually connected. – Rebecca, 36

What's the greatest lesson you've learned about relationships?
Opposites attract, but in nearly all cases, these relationships are destined to fail. Find someone who has similar interests to you, who you're truly compatible with in as many ways as possible. – Matt the Knife, 27

Meet the throwers here.

Today on Miss Information: Fantasies, Seducers and Husbands

Sarah — Wed, 12 Dec 2007 17:30:00 GMT

It’s Wednesday, which means that Miss Information is dispensing advice to the lonely, the lovelorn, the lusty. Today she:

- tells a divorced dude that it’s ok to fantasize about is ex-wife

- warns a woman off seducing her friend who’s in a relationship

- pep-talks a husband whose wife is a little too close with an ex

Would-be cheaters, take note!

New on Nerve, 12.5.2007: Sex and Dating advice from Miss Information

Sarah — Wed, 05 Dec 2007 15:45:00 GMT

Miss Information helps three advice seekers today:

Facebook Faceoff snooped and found that her BF gave his phone number to a Facebook girl with “a hot ass.” Should she break up with him?

Lacking Locks has trichotillomania, a condition where you compulsively pull out your hair, and feels insecure about dating. What should she tell potential suitors?

Want to Be Normal has a HUGE penis and can’t have sex with most women. How can he convince women he’s worth it?

Read Miss Info’s answers here, and post your own advice in the feedback.

New on Nerve, 11.28.2007: Sex and Dating Advice from Miss Information

Sarah — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 16:00:00 GMT

It’s Wednesday, which means another dose of Miss Information. Today she serves up some excellent advice for a) a guy who wants to know how to turn down the dreaded good-email bad-picture online dating prospect b) an anal adventurer wondering about the best lube and c) the wife of a foot-fetishist whose husband is taking his longing outside the relationship.

Just in case you don’t read the entire column (which you should), here’s one thing you should know:

“Nothing wrong with using Crisco. There are quite a few doctors who say it's okay to use in limited amounts, provided you test a small area and watch for your reaction. But I'm not sure you'd want to rub anything called "shortening" on or around an organ that's usually revered for its length.”

New on Nerve, 11.21.2007: Miss Information’s Greatest Hits

Sarah — Wed, 21 Nov 2007 18:30:00 GMT

Miss Info is preparing for her turkey-coma right now so today we’ve published a few of her best questions and answers:

- A phone buddy who won’t commit

- A bi girl in a relationship whose female friends try to kiss her

- A guy who may or may not be being dumped by the woman he’s seeing

New on Nerve, 11.14.2007: Miss Information

Sarah — Wed, 14 Nov 2007 16:07:00 GMT

Today Miss Info brings us the winners of last week’s contest, which challenged readers explain why this writer wasn’t getting second dates after coming out of a serious relationships.

First prize goes to Sam, who explains why a kiss is just a kiss, and a butt grab even less so.

Second place goes to Sean, who works in three Neil Diamond references without mentioning this, the most poignant classic of the D man's entire career. Enjoy your snack food, sonny boy. How you live with yourself, I'll never know.

In third place is Andy, who reminds me of Sigmund Freud, if Siggie would stop yammering about Oedipal junk and give you some practical advice, like "Make out with everyone! (Just not your father.)"

New on Nerve, 11.7.2007: Miss Information's Sex and Dating Advice

Sarah — Wed, 07 Nov 2007 16:59:00 GMT

Today on Miss Info: a guy whose ex is blogging falsities about their relationship and a single Korean dude who wishes his friends would stop trying to set him up on dates.

Also, be Miss Information for a day!

Send an email to erin@nerve.com with a 350-word-or-less response to the question at the end of this week's column. Next week I'll post the winners.

1st prize: Membership to Nerve Premium

2rd prize: Jumbo assortment of UTZ brand snacks (The NYC junk food of choice — accept no substitute!)

3rd prize: Gift certificate for iTunes so you can download the latest young-people internet album.

New on Nerve, 11.1.07: Which John Cusack or Drew Barrymore character are you dating?

Sarah — Thu, 01 Nov 2007 15:45:00 GMT

There's a little John Cusack and Drew Barrymore inside us all. Check out our chart to find out which version is in the person you're dating.

New on Nerve, 11.1.07: Sex Advice From... Taggers

Sarah — Thu, 01 Nov 2007 14:38:00 GMT

Some helpful advice from taggers in today's SAF...:

I'm shy and prefer staying in. My boyfriend goes out with his friends almost every night. I miss him! How can we get past this?
You're just going to need to drink heavily once in a while and get over it.

I want to have a threesome. What do I need to know?
You're asking for drama. I know because when I was younger, I was pretty uninhibited. Think back to elementary school: You have two best friends, and one gets jealous when you're playing with the other one. People get jealous, people get hurt. You have to think twice before you do this.

Threesomes in elementary school?

New on Nerve 10.31.07: Miss Information’s Advice on Dating a Shy Friend

Sarah — Wed, 31 Oct 2007 14:51:00 GMT

Dear Miss Information,

I have this friend who I might like to date, but she's unbearably shy….How can I draw her out of her shell? I'm sure we'd both be happier that way. — Shy Times Two

Well, I know you'll be happier. She'll be doing all the work and taking all the risk by asking you out. I'm going to age myself about twenty years in two sentences, but, as my mom used to say:

What's the matter with you? You got a broken leg? YOU ask her out.

New on Nerve, 9.12.07: Lecherous writers and boyfriends who hide their porn

Sarah — Wed, 12 Sep 2007 15:02:00 GMT

Fiction by Emily Raboteau

"The writer licked her earlobe. He urgently nibbled the back of her neck. She was getting wet, becoming the thing in his arms being kissed. At the same time, she felt entirely detached from the scene. She noticed a box turtle swimming under the surface of the water and had an impulse to smash it with a rock."

Miss Information by Erin Bradley

"I would love to watch [my boyfriend's porn] with him; I see it as chance to get a window into what other things he would like from me sexually — what he'd like me to look like, dress like, act out. But when I mention this (or, more frequently, cry about how it is taking a chunk of my self-esteem and flushing it down the toilet), I get a wall of silence in response."