A Tango story this morning gave us an idea: what do Scanner readers consider cheating? A kiss? A blow job followed by six straight months (but nothing shorter) of sex in a hotel room? What do you think?
We have been taught that the definition of cheating starts with a
kiss, and that a physical tryst is the ultimate betrayal. But a lot of
other flirtatious behavior can cross into the gray zone. Anything from
sexy text messages and phone sex to a lap dance from a stripper and
intense lunches with a coworker may not be immediate cause for a
break-up, but these acts may be enough to make people re-evaluate what
constitutes being unfaithful.
Take Eva, 25, a curator who lives in Chicago. Knee-deep into her
relationship with her boyfriend, Rob, she started to feel restless. The
sex with Rob was passionless and infrequent. Eva still loved him, but
felt a need to jumpstart her love life. One day, she found a three-word
email from an ex-boyfriend in her inbox: “How are you?” What started as
innocent catch-up emails escalated into graphic reveries about their
racy sexual past. Eva felt a thrill she hadn’t felt for months in her
relationship with Rob. The ex-boyfriend lived in Italy, so the
exchanges never resulted in a face-to-face meeting. Late at night,
though, she wondered, “Am I a cheater?”
Damn, if sending e-mails is cheating, we're surprised no one's branded us with a bright-red "A" across our collective chests. But maybe you have a different opinion... let's hear from you in the comments.
Via Tango.
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