#21: see above tan.
Megan, who is guest blogging on Jezebel these days, has been stirring up the comment section's hornet nest over there, starting with her post "Men and Sex: A Guy's Guide to Getting It On." The list is almost totally spot-on... although we always have to wonder where girls find these guys... and why there weren't red flags before the guys made these glaring faux pas...
- Don't pre-emptively tell me you have a small penis.
- Don't drop the n-bomb during a discussion on the walk back to your place.
- Don't ever say to me, "Your breasts don't look like the ones in my magazines."
- Don't call it "my junk" or any pet names when asking me to touch it.
- In fact, don't ask me to touch it. I know you want me to touch
it. I will do so when and if I want to. If we are in a public place, I
don't want to.
- Don't text me on a Tuesday night after midnight "I could totally eat ur puss now if u r interwssetted." I'm not.
- Don't lick my face. I get flashbacks from Silence of the Lambs.
- If we are friends on a social networking site, I strongly
recommend not joining groups that I can see that identify you as
someone looking for anonymous NSA hook-ups. There aren't thick enough
condoms in the world for me to dip my toe into that pool.
- Don't tell me you and your wife have "an arrangement." Unless
you can provide a signed, notarized affidavit to that effect, I don't
believe you and if you can, see the previous answer.
- Don't ask me if my friend might be interested in a threesome.
- I don't care if you and your friend are interested in a threesome.
- Telling me how hard you are going to fuck me is only hot when
we are a) naked and b) on the verge of fucking. In a well-lit bar in
front of 10 of our colleagues at a work event, it's presumptuous and
gross.
- Don't keep offering to buy me more alcohol to work the odds
when I've indicated a desire to leave. The odds are that I will drink
your damn alcohol and still not want to have sex with you.
- Don't try to guilt me into something. You are not my mother, and you don't have her skills.
- Don't offer to Saran Wrap my genitals to eat me out because
you are scared of disease. You should be. You probably have one, but we
both know it's not from eating a lot of pussy.
- Don't ask if it's okay to fuck me up the ass because you don't have condoms and are "scared" of getting me pregnant.
- Don't hit on my friend(s) first. Yeah, I saw that.
- Don't "neg" me. That works on insecure little 20-somethings
that think they have something to prove. Me it just annoys and you are
not remotely hot/smart/rich/powerful enough to intimidate me into
thinking I want you to have sex with me.
- Don't use a stupid euphemism for fucking. If The Bloodhound Gang used it in a song, it should not be called that if you're trying to actually get laid.
- Never, ever utter the word or attempt to motorboat.
The post caused an immediate sensation that even woke up the cultural latecomers at the New York Times. Yesterday, Megan posted a followup that defended her choices:
It also inspired a response from The Times'
Sathnam Sanghera, who said that "modern man is an impossible position
when it comes to seduction." Um, actually, that's sort of the point.
Seduction, is after all, by definition the act of convincing a woman to do something she doesn't want to do.
We thought, in a show of solidary with Megan and to add a voice to the communication meltdown that's threatening our very civilization, that we should round it out at a solid two dozen...
21. See above tan. If you look like that, go back to Square One and regroup.
22. Quit while you're ahead. If she's going for you, take it easy, settle in and enjoy the evening. Don't over do it.
23. Don't discuss the bill for more than two seconds. As Megan puts it, some people want to pay, some want to be paid for. With that in mind, feel her out on the check, then accept whatever vibe she's giving off.
24. Avoid creating controversy just to keep things interesting. Bringing up politics for the sake of keeping the conversation going ties back to 22.
Via Jezebel.
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