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 As I have said before, I applaud the breaking of boundaries to discover who you are. Many boundaries are made to be broken. That is why we leave home, leave town, leave a marriage and, oh yes, why some of us left Matriarchal Feminism. I didn't become an individual until I had tested the rules and boundaries I had absorbed as a child and broken many of them. But in breaking boundaries, you have to take personal responsibility for your acts and in doing so, you set up new boundaries of your own. The sexual revolution of the 1970s was about women breaking the sexual rules derived from Patriarchal Society. But while feminism laid down new rules on abortion, it didn't sufficiently stress taking personal responsibility for one's sexuality. Therefore, sex today includes a lot of irresponsibility; the "Do-Your-Own-Thing" attitudes of the 1970s have led to unwanted pregnancies and the spread of diseases today. It is as if the daughters of early feminism, never having heard sex discussed as an important topic that requires rules and boundaries, as well as freedom, have remained as controlling as their own mothers were. They still don't know how to talk to their children about love and respect for one's body, not to mention the virtues of masturbation. I definitely think there can be too much sexual candor. When asked, for example, if one should share her sexual fantasies with her mate, I always urge caution. I don't go along with those who say "Love me, love my fantasy." Instead, I urge people to think and think again before doing so, because they must take responsibility for the consequences of sharing such intimate information. Similarly, I believe women have the right to wear anything they want, no matter how revealing, but they should not do so until they understand the likely reactions to their behavior and the consequences that can result. I don't think you can wear a skirt slit up to your crotch and then yell "Sexual Harassment" when men act rudely. Finally, about the positive values of boundaries, societal and personal: without boundaries -- in my case, ethics -- I am a blob, a puddle that spreads and intrudes, assuming I have the right to do whatever I damn well please. Without ethics, I do damage to myself and to others. The same goes for society. There isn't enough emphasis on ethics -- as distinct from dogma -- which is why we see so many without morals or manners around us. 
- Nancy's tangent on why a "virtual" round table beats a real one |
Question 1 Susie Bright Betty Dodson Nancy Friday Daphne Merkin Sallie Tisdale Question 2 Susie Bright Betty Dodson Nancy Friday Daphne Merkin Sallie Tisdale Question 3 Susie Bright Betty Dodson Nancy Friday Daphne Merkin Sallie Tisdale Question 4 Susie Bright Betty Dodson Nancy Friday Daphne Merkin Sallie Tisdale Question 5 Susie Bright Betty Dodson Nancy Friday Daphne Merkin Sallie Tisdale Question 6 Susie Bright Betty Dodson Nancy Friday Daphne Merkin Sallie Tisdale |
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