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 Oh Nerve people, give me a break! Implicit in your question is the belief that attitude and behavior are at variance. Didn't my answers to your first four questions make clear that nothing could be further from the truth? Back in the '70s, feminism helped me tell myself, "Girl, get your act together," meaning, get your attitude and behavior in sync. Feminism helped me realize I didn't have to wait any longer for the phone to ring, for my delicate hand to be picked up, for my 5'10" frame to be laid down for sex. I could do it myself and I could do it to him. I could be a seductress, she who seduces the man of her choice. I believe that's a role I was born to play. But it was a role I almost lost in adolescence when, in the patriarchal society I grew up in, I was forced to wait and pretend passivity. While I have aligned my attitudes and behavior, I should add that conditioning the unconscious comes more slowly on matters as crucial as sex. Changes in the unconscious -- often reflected in changes in sexual fantasies -- can take generations. My own erotic fantasies remain pretty much those of my youth, and I use this exciting rule-breaking, in-your-face thrill to blast me into orgasm. Sex with forbidden men? Sex in public places? Sex in a car outside the dormitory, even as the clock ticks toward curfew while the headmistress stands at the top of the stairs, hopefully unable to see me through the steamy windshield . . . will I reach my orgasm before midnight? Give it up? Not a chance. But that is the unconscious. The rest of me -- attitude and behavior -- began to change twenty-five years ago and continues to evolve today. |
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