OPINIONS

Hot It's Not: Sex, Love and Romance by Minna Proctor  


Riding on a wave of pre-release buzz that only blow jobs and ten-inch dicks can inspire, French director Catherine Breillat's sixth film (the first to find U.S. distribution), Romance, is being marketed as the sexiest art film since Last Tango in Paris and nominates her for a spot in the genealogy of women artists who dare to be frank about sex. The ultra-graphic nature of the sexual material, along with Breillat's insistence on acknowledging the influence of venerable pornographers the Marquis de Sade and Georges Bataille, would support the notion that Romance is a Third Wave feminist take on the erotic. Here's the rub: it's not sexy or erotic; it's just graphic. It's a disturbingly graphic portrait of female sexuality at its most troubled, which is something of a leap from Breillat's own defense of her project: to "reclaim sexual representation from the pornography industry and to restore some dignity to the portrayal of human sexuality."
     Nine times out of ten, when troubled female sexuality is portrayed from a woman's perspective in books or movies, it is as a kind of disaffected promiscuity. Romance is no different. Marie, played by dark-eyed waif Caroline Ducey, is an elementary school teacher whose boyfriend, Paul (Sagamore Stevenin), a model, does not want to have sex with her and hasn't for three months. Rather than interpret his lack of interest as a signal that the relationship is, or should be, over, Marie embarks on a tortured and torturous journey of self-examination, taking on the unilateral responsibility of trying to find a way to reconcile her needs — as if it were her problem, not his. She sneaks out of their sterile bed late at night and brazenly picks up a lonely hunk, Paolo (Italian porn star Rocco Siffredi), in a café. She has sex with him, but doesn't enjoy it because she's too busy meditating on the differences between men and women. She starts an exploratory and stilted bondage affair with the principal at her school, a talkative father figure who can both make her cry and comfort her afterwards. She picks up another stranger in the street and lets him eat her out in the vestibule of their apartment building. But even when it goes awry and he rapes her, she's really just focused on being the last one home so that Paul might wonder where she's been. All for naught.
     The graphic scenes include a couple of unconvincing blow jobs, some tentative stroking of Paolo's condom-shrouded penis, one come shot (part of a Madonna/whore allegorical dream sequence), close-ups of Marie's pubes, one damp digit, an overpopulated gynecological exam and a full-on stretched-to-the-max birthing scene. These scenes might push the scandal envelope of the art-house circuit, but erotic they are not. There is little human about the sexuality portrayed, even less dignity, and the only thing sexual about the depictions is that they're explicit.
     No, Romance is more like a Pasolini film where the obscenity lies in the usurpation of Catholic iconography and the sympathetic depiction of morally bereft characters (not in a random cleavage or crotch shot). What is pornographic about Romance are the misbegotten extremes of self-effacement the heroine goes to in order to retain the promise of love. It is painfully obvious that the relationship between Marie and Paul is not worth salvaging. And if it isn't clear in the opening scene where the two are sitting over a table discussing their moribund sex life — Marie in tears and Paul aloof and defensive — then it becomes transparent when we see them in bed together and it's revealed that they haven't had sex in months. While tears can be thrilling, despondence is boring. Marie's character has despondence written into it, which casts a deadening shadow over her multifarious adventures, blurring what might be picaresque experimentalism into a kind of one-note flailing. Marie robotically goes through the motions, dropping naive existential platitudes all the while, and finding not a hint of enjoyment (she even makes masturbation look tragic). The school principal appears happy enough, rummaging through his toy trunk for bondage paraphernalia like an expectant seven year old, yet he ultimately seems more interested in chatter and literary reference than eroticism per se. Paul is actually insulted by the notion of sex. The vestibule rapist insults with sex. Ironically, the only person who seems to enjoy himself is Paolo, Rocco Siffredi's character — the guy Breillat imported from the porn industry.
     But at the risk of overstating the obvious, sexuality doesn't need to be rescued from pornography any more than Rocco does. Sex isn't a pie with only so many pieces to go around, and only so many ways to slice it. Quite the opposite. Porn speaks to the sexuality of its fans, as does any erotic endeavor, and the ways of doing it are as diverse as the players. One hopes that female sexuality has not been so set adrift by French philosophy that it doesn't allow for desire without grief or psychological second-guessing.
     Despite the hype, making feminist porn, or even a sex movie, was the least of Breillat's artistic intentions. The Russian formalist Victor Shlovsky claimed that the purpose of art was to make the "stone stony," to slow down or jar the reader or spectator so that the art itself was experienced. In other words, rather than reference sex, misery or suspense, the artist should strive to evoke it. In that respect, Breillat goes a long way toward making her presentation jarring. Here is where her graphic use of sex is effective — it keeps us looking. Things that are hard to look away from: Rocco Siffredi's big happy dick, Stevenin's little flaccid one, the gaping vagina in the birth scene, Dulcey's awkwardly pretty face and waif-like body. Breillat uses sex as a formal device to grab our attention, to confuse us and thereby force us to struggle with the much more difficult and, frankly, more intimate story of human behavior in the throes of a diseased relationship.
     I don't think I'm going out on a limb when I say that while girls seem to suffer more ebbs than flows of the libido — especially over the long haul — boys, in general, like to get laid. A couple of off days might mean trouble at work, not enough red meat; a couple of off months indicates larger problems in the relationship: infidelity, boredom, discontent, the approach of a breakup, or confusions about sexual identity. Any one of which is a red flag. What, then, drives a person to stay, to wheedle, to beg? Love? Masochism? Insecurity? Clarity, as such, is not always immediate, and warnings are never easy to heed. We go through the machinations, fearing — God forbid — we might send away Mr. or Mrs. Right. Marie and Paul remind us of affairs we look back on and think, "How could I have? What was I thinking?" People are peculiar in how they hang on to each other, the contortions they perform trying to stick square pegs into round holes, as anyone who has ever struggled to break away knows all too well.
     As a "relationship" movie, or, more specifically, a movie about the tendency of the female psyche to be accommodating, Romance cuts uncomfortably close to the bone on the subjects of attachment, dependency and the cruel dynamics of just wanting to be loved. Strip away the sex and Romance is the story of a young girl who is with a man who doesn't love her. In her attempts to recover the sensation of the beginning (those first gushes, when the thrill of discovery is fed by the sense of possibility) she indulges acts of desperation that inevitably drive the stake in deeper.
     And so finally, what makes you squirm in your seat is not the close up of Marie's crotch bound by white rope, but rather the uneasy acknowledgment that she's doing it for Paul, even though Paul's a dead end. What's really obscene about Romance is that undercurrent of recognition that each of us has, in our own way, let ourselves be bound.


send | read feedback

send this article to a friend


©1999 Minna Proctor and Nerve.com


promotion
buzzbox
partner links


advertise on nerve | affiliate program | home | photography | personal essays | fiction | dispatches | video | opinions | regulars | search | personals | horoscopes | NerveShop | about us |

account status
| login | join | TOS | help

©2009 Nerve.com, Inc.