Dating Advice From Taylor Kitsch

The star of Friday Night Lights and the upcoming John Carter on why we can't touch his abs.

by Jeremy Glass

Actor and model Taylor Kitsch got famous playing brooding Tim Riggins on the cultishly adored NBC series Friday Night Lights. Now he's starring in John Carter, an interplanetary adventure directed by Wall-E director Andrew Stanton and based on the classic Barsoom stories by Edgar Rice Burroughs. (You can read a fascinating New Yorker article about Stanton and the movie here.) John Carter opens this Friday.

In one scene in John Carter, you teach an alien princess to shake hands. How do you normally approach women here on Earth? 
Oh man, I don't really have a life at the moment, to be honest with you. There's no balance right now — it's nothing but work. So right now that's the last thing on my mind I can really put energy into. 

What about before your work life got so busy?
How I would approach women? Incredibly aggressively. I'd bombard them with everything I've got. That's how I do it — I'm the guy at the bar who won't take "no" for an answer, who makes everyone around them awkward. 

I had a friend who called that being "disarmingly charming." 
Or armingly.

Your costars in John Carter include Willem Dafoe, Thomas Haden Church, and Bryan Cranston. If they formed a crusty-old-tough-guys club and went out to meet women, who'd do the best? 
That's a good question! They're all charming in their own way. Haden Church is hilarious. They've all got very dry senses of humor, which are the best in my opinion. But Willem's married, and so is Cranston, so I don't really know if they'd want to be out in the shit. So I'd have to say Church, maybe? 

How would you stack up against the three of them? 
They'd kill me. They would kill me. 

In John Carter, you end up on Mars. I don't have it quite that bad, but my boyfriend just got a job in another state, and I need to stay put because I'm still in school. How can I make long-distance work? 
Oh, man. That's tough. It really does depend on how far it is, and if you can make those road trips on the weekend or something. I've done it and it's extremely tough. Communication and bluntness work, or at least eliminate a lot of wasted energy. I would say that — just be incredibly blunt. 

I love my girlfriend, but she's strictly into Top 40 music, and I'm a die-hard punk rocker. It seems silly, but it actually causes a surprising amount of bickering. How important are shared interests in a relationship?
There's got to be a compromise there, or it just isn't going to work. You have learn to love it, you know? You don't have to live for it. I mean, is it really going to kill the relationship that you don't like the music she likes? 


If you could give your sixteen-year-old self any piece of dating advice, what would it be? 
Chill out. 

John Carter features you shirtless for basically two hours straight. You are probably aware that most people's abs don't look like yours. How do women usually react to that? 
I think we'll soon find out once the movie hits, won't we? 

Will you allow our web designer, Ellie, to touch them? 

So those abs are off-limits to human beings. 
Those abs belong to John Carter. I don't have those. 

You're a certified nutritionist and personal trainer. What's the one thing I can do to have better abs without really having to work very hard? 
Well, that's the thing. "Don't be so fucking lazy" — how about that? 

I mean, I'll see what I can do.
Just keep it simple. 85% of it is what you put into your body, so just be smart and keep it simple. 

That's tough, because I usually put 100% junk food into my body. 
Yeah, there you go. 

That would explain all those non-abs I have. 
The one giant ab you have. 

Despite playing an all-American character on Friday Night Lights, you yourself are from Canada. What's the biggest difference between American and Canadian women? 
It's such a broad stroke, right? I mean women are different in New York than they are in L.A., and they're different in Montreal than they are in Vancouver, so it's tough to say. You're putting them all into one category, and that's just unfair. 

So, all around, women are just wonderful. 
Yup. That's a safe answer.

You were in X-Men Origins, you're in John Carter, and you'll star in the upcoming Battleship — all sci-fi. What keeps drawing you to science-fiction movies?
What keeps drawing me? I think the character and the people I'm surrounded with — you know, to work with Andrew Stanton, Willem Dafoe, and Mark Strong in John Carter, and then Peter Berg and Liam Neeson in Battleship. And I took a lot from X-Men in a great friend in Hugh Jackman. Sci-fi isn't the only thing I've been doing, but I don't have a problem doing it when the character's really fun and fulfilling to play.

You played a compulsive womanizer on Friday Night Lights. How has that affected your real-life relationships?
I don't think it has. I hope not! Hopefully they're not dating Tim Riggins. I won't date anyone who thinks I'm that character. Jeez, I'll have to ask next time. I mean, maybe John Carter's a safer bet, because he's probably the most honorable guy on this or next planet. I'm okay if they want to see me as Carter.

Your Friday Night Lights character sleeps with an older woman. What's your cutoff for an age difference in dating?
Probably ninety-five. Mid-nineties.

No centenarians for Taylor Kitsch, then? That's not you?
No, man. That's my cutoff age. Mid-nineties, nothing more — no way.

What was the greatest moment while you were working on John Carter?
There was a great moment at the end, when Andrew Stanton thanked me for my effort and what I put into the film. There's no greater feeling when a director you've worked with for the past year plus just thanks you.

Andrew Stanton also directed Wall-E. For the record, who's cuter: you, or Wall-E?

Nerve Dating is positively crawling with charming, well-muscled actors.

Commentarium (36 Comments)

Mar 07 12 - 1:59am

OMFG I am so in love.

Mar 07 12 - 3:30am
love Taylor

I would not mind if he approached me at a bar lol nope I wouldn't mind one bit at all!!!

Mar 07 12 - 10:04am

Yeah, I imagine the aggressively-bombard trick at the bar probably works better for guys who look like him.

Mar 07 12 - 5:06am

Ellie is really cute.

Mar 07 12 - 7:46am
O lordy

He is absolutely delicious! It's been a while since a guy on TV could reduce me to a pathetic, quivering wreck of a woman but OMG TIM RIGGINS!!

Jun 12 12 - 1:53pm


Mar 07 12 - 10:47am

His arrogance and contempt towards the interviewer is actually extremely UNattractive, as far as I'm concered.

Mar 07 12 - 11:10am

He didn't seem arrogant to me, I actually thought he was kinda charming. Wasn't planning to see this movie but now I might

Mar 07 12 - 11:48am

"Don't be so fucking lazy"— how about that?...The one giant ab you have." Saying that to a friend is one thing, but to a random interviewer you don't even know? Rude. Also, muscles that serve no practical purpose whatsoever = a guy who will spend more time flexing in front of a mirror than paying attention to his girlfriend. Not cute.

Mar 07 12 - 11:54am
mara m

i dunno, i just got the sense they were joking around... maybe i was lost in his eyes!!!

Mar 08 12 - 10:48am
i'm with mara

"That's tough, because I usually put 100% junk food into my body." Yeah, Sarah, I'm pretty sure they were joking. Deeeep breath.

Mar 08 12 - 12:33pm
mr. man

'don't be so fucking lazy' was both funny & accurate. hit the gym, bitches! (that's just a little joke, relax.)

Mar 10 12 - 12:03am

re: time at the gym - Not necessarily. My bf has abs almost as good as Taylor's and barely works out. It's disgusting....and oh so delicious at the same time.

Mar 07 12 - 12:12pm

Well, points for honesty and personality. But honestly, he seems kind of like a jerk. Oh well. He was a pretty good Gambit and being a jerk works in your favor if you're hot.

Mar 07 12 - 3:16pm

I agree, he sounded like a tool to me too.

Mar 07 12 - 3:35pm

I think he sounds refreshingly unscripted. It doesn't seem like he's had the amount of PR coaching you would expect from the star of a big tent-pole movie like this. Honestly, it's kind of strange that he's doing an interview with nerve at all, and perhaps indicative that he's being overextended to promote this. I feel like he's been everywhere for the past two weeks, which I can't really complain about because I'll love Tim Riggins forever.

Mar 07 12 - 3:40pm

I think he's pretty charming. I've seen him in a couple interviews and he has a very dry sense of humor and likes to joke with the interviewer so I think that's what's going on. He'll always be Tim Riggins in my heart!

Mar 07 12 - 4:00pm

I interpret it as dry wit, which sometimes doesn't come across well in writing.
Also, the Tim Riggins character was so much more than a compulsive womanizer!

Mar 07 12 - 9:13pm

it is sarcasm, and I agree. He had a moment with a female interviewer from ET Canada that made me tres jealous...

Mar 07 12 - 4:26pm

His silly sarcasm doesn't always translate into print and people don't always pick up on it even in person, but he's ALWAYS kidding around in interviews - it's part of what's fun about him. He's so funny! I'll let my 84-year-old grandmother who declared, while watching FNL with me, "Now THAT'S a nice-looking man!" that she still has a chance with him ;)

Mar 07 12 - 5:47pm


Mar 07 12 - 8:49pm

He can say anything he wants because .... TIM RIGGINS!!!

Mar 07 12 - 11:41pm

Wow! I've already seen the movie and I thought he was bad it that. Proves that things can always get worse.

Jun 12 12 - 2:00pm
princess hunter

taylor is the hotest man alive!!!

Mar 08 12 - 4:08pm

I've seen interviews with him for John Carter and Friday Night Lights and he seems pretty laid back and nice and has been described as such. Sarcasm doesn't always mean tool.. lol

Mar 09 12 - 8:25am

Seems like a pretty chill guy, but c'mon - if a cute girl asks to touch your abs, you have to oblige.

Mar 12 12 - 2:59pm

He's charming, hilarious and talented. He has it all in my book. "The one giant ab you have." Hahahaa!!!

Mar 12 12 - 3:06pm

People, use your brain and get a sense of humor. Also, just because you're insanely good looking, doesn't mean you want some random chick touching your abs in the middle of an interview. If anyone is lacking integrity, it's the idiot who would even ask to do that in the first place. Obnoxious. Taylor's honesty is refreshing and if "fucking lazy" people are offended by his answer, well... Lol.

May 24 12 - 5:50pm

Pretty sure the ab touching request was a joke as well.You might benefit from your own advice.

May 31 12 - 12:26am

I want to as well be a personal trainer, nutritionist and go into sports medicine., but I would go to work and do school at night. How in the hell would I have time to flirt or make a relationship work.

Jul 01 12 - 10:48pm

i like him.
i like the homeless part, nutritionist, bang bang club, nutritionist,john carter, nutritionist, hockey and his cut off age is mid 90s cos 96 is just wrong.

Jul 09 12 - 11:19pm

I think he's extremely handsome, honest and funny. I also think he has what it takes to play the role of Christian Grey in the movie "50 Shades of Grey" He has the looks and acting ability to play the dominant, mercurial / warm, sweet Christian Grey that we women are so in love with.

Sep 04 12 - 9:01am

I soo agree with you mr. Gray he is, it would propel him to where he deserves to be.

Aug 24 12 - 6:46am

I love him :))))

Sep 05 12 - 5:19pm

He's just kidding for Pete's Sake!! Lighten up people. By the way, I wouldn't let a stranger touch me either. Kind of a poor taste question on the part of the interviewer. Just because your're an actor doesn't mean you are not a person entitled to some personal space.

Sep 06 12 - 4:25am

I think he is so sexy!!! Vary handsome man I'm not sure what I would do if such a man approached me at a bar. I would probably be shocked not one guy at a bar has offered to buy me a drink or even came up to talk to me. I don't know how to date... Married my high school sweetheart and it didn't work out now I'm a single woman and in need of advice on how this thing called dating works