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Dear Miss Information,
My friend likes to go to bars and meet women. I often go along as wingman. I'm starting to wonder whether I should give it up. Every time we go out (and I do mean every time) I go home alone and he winds up hooking up with some chick. I know the job of the wingman is to be supportive, but shouldn't I get a little play as well? A makeout? An email? A phone number? Something?!
I know it has to do with looks. I'm on the short side and average. He's tall with a face like George Clooney. He's also unemployed, with legal issues and burgeoning drug and alcohol addictions. All this doesn't seem to make a damn bit of difference when we're talking to females. I like hanging with him. He's an okay guy, despite all the bullshit. And yet, the girl stuff has me just about ready to end the friendship. Am I being stupid? I've also thought about taking these girls aside and telling them what a loser he is, in private. I know days later I'll be staring at their cleavage while they're crying on my shoulder. He's that predictable. — Not Visually Gifted |
Dear Not Visually Gifted,
I'm supposed to tell you a bunch of rubbish about how looks don't matter. It's all in how you carry yourself. You can woo any dame you want with a liberal application of leather pants, social engineering and a feather boa. Yeah, maybe for this asshole. But let's be real now. Some people are better looking than others. Your best friend, loser that he is, has it over you in this one particular area. Unfair, but that's the way the DNA chips fall.
The most beneficial thing for you to do in the short term is to keep your game clean, son. The average bar memory is short. Your targets will forget everything you said once your gorgeous friend is back in their line of vision, anyway. I once flirted with a homeless, jobless dude named "Crash" for five whole hours. All because he looked like Keanu. The vagina has an amazing capacity to justify. It's not just you men.
You also want to rethink your target. Hot tends to go with hot in social meetup situations. That's just how it shakes out. Instead of directing your energies toward the hottest girl in the room who's 99% likely to go after your super-hot friend, be more realistic. Go for the second or third hottest girl instead.
Longer term solution — and I think you might be surprised that I agree with you in this situation — is to stop playing wingman to ol' Johnny Pitt. Find another friend. One on the same level with your looks or maybe a little less attractive. Not so homely as to drive off potential prospects, just not this girl catnip like your friend.
But Miss Info! I'm a guy. I don't know how to judge guys! Whatever, copper-outter. Of course you do. If you're that homophobic that you can't evaluate someone's attractiveness, you can at least observe other people's reactions. Do girls look at him when you go out? What about gay guys? Has he had girlfriends? A few slutty one-offs? A couple non-imaginary relationships? If yes, consider him qualified. Train him to be your wingman and feel what it's like to be the Chosen One for a while.
Dear Miss Information,
A few weeks ago you suggested I seek out a swarthy Jewish guy to satisfy my newfound preference for burly Mediterranean men. I immediately dismissed it, not because I'm a raging anti-Semite, but because given my past experience, I've determined that I apparently require foreskin for consistent vaginal orgasms. Sounds nutty, but hear me out: My theory is that the motion is more fluid and therefore pleasurable with a hooded fella, whereas the circumcised seem to prefer harder thrusting, perhaps due to a lifetime of exposed man parts losing precious sensitivity. Since you have more readers than I have friends, perhaps you can open this topic for discussion? I'd love to know if you or others have made similar observations. — Shoulda Moved to Italy After College |
Dear Shoulda Moved to Italy After College,
I wouldn't rule out every Jonah, Ethan and Isaac. There are a number of uncircumcised Jewish men. In the United States in particular, circumcision is on the decline. Reasons range from the growing number of those who question the ethics of putting junior's hoo-hoo under the scalpel to the always-classy insurance companies taking advantage of the debate to deem it an "elective" procedure. Some peeps are so up in arms they're even trying to pass a law about it.
But you're not here to talk politics. You just want to know why it feels good. Sorry, Shoulda Moved. Whenever I'm confronted with an uncut dick, I feel like I'm at a wine tasting. There are turtlenecks — fabric and flesh — and slightly smug individuals expecting me to pick up on subtle differences in varietals. My taste in penis is the same as my taste in vino: Yes. Foreskin or no foreskin, I'm just happy to get you out of your trousers.
Always up for an excuse to talk filth, I went ahead and polled a few of my friends:
"As far as blowjobs and handjobs go, the skin does all the work. It's so easy, I love it. As far as uncircumcised during penetration, I didn't notice anything different." — O
"I have a very strong preference for uncircumcised men. . . uncircumcised men are more sensitive and seem to have a much stronger physical reaction to both oral sex and penetration. This also affects how they move. . . in a good way." — C
"I prefer the way uncircumcised looks, but I haven't noticed any difference in performance." — H
"I've only been with one uncircumcised guy. I can't imagine how anyone would be able to 'feel the difference' unless they had some hyper-sensitive, princess-and-the-pea-type vag." — K
Readers, what do you have to say? Does foreskin or the lack thereof really make that big of a difference when you're on the receiving end? Is Shoulda Moved being a divacrotch or expressing a very understandable preference? Go Skins vs. Skinned in the Feedback section.
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Commentarium (27 Comments)
guys with foreskin aren't always as clean and so for me blowjobs on an uncircumcised guy... not my cup of tea. it's true that handjobs are easier on an uncircumcised guy but let's get to the sex part... a good lover is a good lover, foreskin or no foreskin. and the best lovers i've ever had are israelis. they are the perfect combination of rough and tender, tough and sensitive, and since they have such big egos they really want to get you off so they can feel proud of themselves. they like lots and lots of sex and rarely fall asleep after the first round. they are attentive and hot and the sexiest guys in the world. so my advice: go for an israeli.
Serious editing problem in the response to the first letter. The paragraph that starts "People like your boyfriend do one of two things when confronted" - from there on it is from some other response. Unless I am missing something big.
I know some people might find this gross, but actually prefer the taste of the uncircumcised cock. It actually has a flavor (oh boy, penis and LOLcats . . .), and that's exciting, like the smell of sweaty man is sexier than showered man. But really, thought I have a preference, once you're in the thick of things, don't really notice a difference.
I'm so glad to see other girls support the uncircumcised penis - especially since anytime this topic is brought up on television, ladies almost always seem to be put off by it. Somehow, my sexual partners have been split down the middle - half cut, half uncut - and I can definitely attest to better sex with the latter. I think it comes down to sensitivity. Men who haven't been circumcised are much less likely to do damage to themselves masturbating, using the "death grip" or something of the kind, so they generally require less friction to get off.
Oh yeah - and ditto on the editing problem in answer #1.
Hey MRI - yeah, that was a holdover from last week's column. We're going to get it fixed. Thanks! xoxox Miss Info
For LW#1, you might try to meet ladies outside of late nights at the bar with your hot guy friend. People with more average looks don't really shine in places where you have to shout in someone's ear to get back a "What?" when you still can't be heard.
Try to meet women places where you can, you know, actually talk. Looks matter a bit less when there's substance and your friend might outshine less when the women can hear him say he's unemployed.
Of course, your odds of getting random booty might go down in environments where people are talking and (more) sober, so there is a downside.
I'm with the writer. I've found that cut men jackhammer while uncut men just don't. Jackhammering is not comfortable!
Uncut- easier handjobs
cut or uncut? the difference is in the man not the skin or lack therof.
ditto on the israelis, my best experience ever was with one.
apart from him, i def prefer uncut, bjs to orgasm take about 10 mins as opposed to 20 mins or more of aching jaw and chafed chin.
CIRCUNONIUM....started as a punishment a mark agin those whom daring to touch as pleasuring the verbodden fruits...((( elderly fools unable to perform had to face reality )))Circumonium... Then becoming the mark as belonging to the same tribe...being an unfortuate misguided foolish act of appalling abuse carried out against every BOYCHILD... in time unto GIRLCHILD... being the greater macarbe form of abuse, being brought about through religious Mumbo Jumbo. Where woman taught as being evil whom havin tempted man in sexual pleasure thus she being responsible in the bringing of mans spiritual downfall. Hence, she must suffer eternal punishment..... CIRCUMONIUM.... SHOULD ONLY BE DONE THROUGH THAT OF MEDICAL NEED, AS AND ONLY THEN... .. .
I absolutely prefer uncircumcised men and they seem to be more sensitive to my ministrations.
Circumcised men have no idea what they are missing out on.
LW#1 - ditto to MM's comments, and then some. I'm not flashy, but I have classic good looks, am educated, well-read, articulate, poised and attractive (and married). I am attracted to confident and intelligent people who are thoughtful, prompt me to think, broaden my horizons and have a self-effacing sense of humor. I have found a lot of people who fit that bill - and a disproportionate percentage of them are shorter than average. Many of them are attractive, not by conventional standards, but through warmth, charm and what appears to be a genuine interest in other people (a flirtatious nature). They are all highly successful in their chosen fields. Overcompensating? Maybe. But they're better people for it - people with substance you can count on for the long haul. If you want a quickie, pay for it. If you want something of substance, get out of the bars and step into more flattering light.
The "jackhammer" thing some of you are talking about.. if it's something unpleasant I can't say I've ever experienced it. The only thing that comes to mind is the scene in "Sex and the City" when Charlotte gets married and Carrie hooks up with one of Harry's friends. The guy was clueless and just banging away at her without considering her needs. I think that can happen with a circumcised or uncircumcised guy, he just has to be an idiot in the sack. As far as a guy hitting you hard, well, maybe it's true that a circumcised has to take you harder sometimes but that can be a very good thing. I agree with HS. : Israelis are the way to go. They do you gentle and lovely and smooth and then they do you rough and hard and then go back to slow and then rough and... well you get the picture. Finally, as everyone has mentioned, as it's easier to get an uncircumcised guy off through manual stimulation, that also translates to intercourse: they come much faster than circumcised guys and, in my brief experience, too fast. So i'm casting my vote for circumcised.
AFAIK, circumcision is meant to make penis head less sensitive to avoid constant unnecessary erection. Women complain when men cum quickly so cuthead helps. Cut ones have more "personality" than uncut imo. It is lot of work to get women off and ya'll now complain about getting cutmen off? We men can't win! :[ I
"...there are a number of uncircumcised Jewish men."
REALLY?!?!?! From where do you glean this little nugget of information?
No offense, but I think your goy is showing. All Jewish men are circumcised. There's this ceremony (called a bris) that's done 8 days after the birth - people get together at the home of the new parents, they eat some bagels and lox, whitefish salad, egg salad, a little creamed herring if they're lucky...and watch the poor little guy get snipped. It's part of the deal. Even jewish guys who don't get bar mitzvahed when they grow up get circumcised. Even Jewish men who convert as adults get circumcised. Even Jewish men who grow up in the Mediterranean get snipped.
I'm a big fan, Miss Information, but you're off on this one!
I was circumcised at age 21. So I have had sex uncut and cut. I can relate to both. Either way sex was great. When I was not circumcised, when I would thrust in the skin would slide back and it would feel great, but when I would thrust out the skin would glide over my glans so I would lose some sensation. Circumcised no skin to get in the way of in or out thrusts. Also after rough(er) sex my foreskin would get inflamed, now no. Plus I like the way my cock looks circumcised. The only gripe I have with circumcision is the cruel way it is done to infants.
I've been with only 2 uncut men but there is just the most subtle difference in the glide. It can be novel for an American chick whose used to cut-only, but I can't say it's better.
Trust me, there's no difference between circumcised and uncircumcised penises in vaginal intercourse. The vast majority of the nerve endings are near the opening of the vagina, so unless the guy's hung like a squirrel, I can't imagine she would feel the foreskin.
In my handful of experience w/ uncut guys, there are some guys w/ a plethora of foreskin which can really bunch up at times causing a neat sensation. On the down side, i have had my share of 2 pump chumps, though not all bad if they are up for extra rounds. They do look bigger when uncut which is a nice aesthetic bonus ; )
Foreskin= less lube= easy handjobs= less pounding= must squeeze Kegel harder
All can be better or not. Depends.
The best advice I was given was unwittingly from my ex, my high school/college sweetheart (shortly after we broke up and were seeing other people), did I mention he had the perfect looking porno cock. The advice: "If you like the guy, you will like his cock." This is true in most circumstances.
NVG, Miss I's advice reminds me of the old joke: Two guys go into a bar, and one says, "I'm going to find the second-ugliest girl here and hit on her." Friend says, "Why?" First one says, "Because every other guy in here is hitting on the ugliest one."
res, the Soviets did not permit Jews to circumcise their sons, so yes, there are Jews out there from the former Soviet Union who are uncircumcised. (And, of course, there are converts who have a symbolic pinprick circumcision, too.)
Please spare me the "tough and sensitive" Israeli sex machine. There's plenty of that circling the media (unless it's "funny and sensitive" a la Adam Sandler as hairdresser). Any man can be sexy, and if in tuned to his partner, become a masterful lover.
As for giving head: I love it and it doesn't matter if the cock is wearing a cape or not, it matters what human body it belongs to. As for jackhammering: I've experienced it with both sets of men. So have my friends.
Oh yeah, stop occupying Palestine.
sos should keep his/her political feelings out of miss information. this is a sex advice column, not a place for political rants. but to fight fire with fire, sos, unless you're 100% native american, why don't you stop occupying this land you're living?
I've never actually experienced someone uncut. I'm Jewish (although not all the men I date are but all of them have been circumcized). Not ALL Jews have a bris (this is directed at the person down below but I don't recall his initials). I have several Jewish friends who recently had baby boys and decided not leave their kids uncut. I think it's a personal decision and not emblematic of any particular political stance. It's up to you as a parent. I think if I ever were to encounter an uncut penis I might be a bit intimidated and not know how to handle it. BTW, Kudos to miss info on her wine tasting analogy! Brilliant as usual!
There's an evolutionary reason for the foreskin! Arguably, the cock got optimized for a few million years to do well what it is supposed to do: give the partner a good orgasm, so she'll come back for more and increase the chance she'll get pregnant with your offspring. Now, are you sure you want to mess with that?
Read this article on scholar.google.com.
BJU International (1999), 83, Suppl. 1, 79
I don't know much about foreskin, seeing as how not having any seems to have served me quite well and I haven't had any complaints, but i would like to say that I agree with you 100% on wine, so THANKS!
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