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Please Advise: Why do I feel sad and angry during sex?

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Nerve readers help out a woman with some conflicted sexual feelings.

Each week, the inbox of our venerable advice columnist, Miss Information, is flooded with queries. And although she makes a valiant effort, she cannot answer them all. To deal with the surplus, we've decided to turn to you. So, don your spectacles and help this woman out. You can give her advice in the comments below, or, if you'd like to share what you wrote with your friends, on our Facebook page.

Dear Nerve,

For the past few months, I’ve been having a weird response to sex. First, I need to say that I've been with my boyfriend for three years, and he's the sweetest, most supportive person imaginable. But lately, sometimes when he stimulates my G-spot, I have an amazing orgasm, but I also feel intensely sad or angry, or both. I cry, scream, and come at the same time. Needless to say, this is disturbing for both of us.

I've never been raped or abused. I lead a pretty hum-drum life: I don't like my job very much but other than that, I don't know why I would be sobbing every time I have an orgasm. I use an IUD (Mirena) and no other medications. Has anyone ever heard of anything like this? It's gotten to the point that I'm wondering if I actually have been raped in the past and maybe I'm repressing the memory. But if so, why is it only recently that I've been sad and angry during sex? What’s going on?

— Potential Demon-Haver