Please Advise: I slept with my professor’s boyfriend, and my grades suffered for it

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A Nerve reader shares her troubles with a scholar and his gentleman friend.

Wise readers,   

Each week, the inbox of our venerable advice columnist, Miss Information, is flooded with queries. And although she makes a valiant effort, she cannot answer them all. To deal with the surplus, we've decided to turn to you. So, don your spectacles and help this woman out. You can give her advice in the comments below, or, if you'd like to share what you wrote with your friends, on our Facebook page    


Dear Nerve,   

Last semester, I had a short fling with a boy in one of my college classes. Little did I know, he also had an on-again, off-again relationship with the professor of that class — who also happens to be my faculty adviser and something of a mentor. It wasn't until after we broke things off that I learned about their Harold-and-way-older-Harold relationship.   

Our fling ended amicably, but I have an indirect issue that remains. I have good grounds — I think — to believe that the professor graded me unfairly, out of spite or jealousy, after he found out about the fling.   

I'm very nervous about approaching the administration about this and worried that they'll take the professor's side. Also, even though the professor was unjust to me, I have no interest in getting him fired or dragging him and his family into some sort of long public battle. I just want to get my grade fixed and find another faculty advisor.   

What should I do?   

— Not the Teacher's Pet

Use your knowledge of justice to help guide her in the comments below!