Lots of late nights, long hours, and one suspicious Gchat conversation are starting to add up.
Each week, the inbox of our venerable advice columnist, Miss Information, is flooded with queries. And although she makes a valiant effort, she can't answer them all. To deal with the surplus, we've decided to turn to you. So, don your spectacles and help this woman out — give her advice in the comments below.
My boyfriend and I have been dating for about two years now, well into that "no longer exciting because it's new" phase. We love each other, and the relationship has no real problems, but lately I'm worrying that he's pulling away from me. He tends to keep late hours at his job, and he works with a small group of people, so they're very tight-knit, and occasionally go out after work.
Recently, though, the hours have been later and later, and the "I'm going to a bar with the coworkers" excuse for not seeing me has been getting invoked more frequently. A couple of days ago, I woke up, and he'd passed out with his laptop in front of him, so I pulled it over to waste some time before he woke up. The tab that was open was a conversation with a coworker over Gchat — she was confessing that she'd developed very strong feelings for him, and that she just wanted to "air things out." This is fine — I can't stop people from getting crushes, or whatever. But then I read down to his response: "Me too," and then something about "I just don't know what to do." I didn't check the date of the conversation, but the late hours, the frequency of after-work hangouts, and now this office crush: it's all starting to add up, but I don't want to make it an issue without any real cause.
Is this all circumstantial evidence? Should I be worried? Or am I just being paranoid? I trust him a lot, but is there a line I should draw? Should I confront him about it or not?
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