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Please Advise: Am I in love, or am I just high?
Nerve readers weigh in on one woman’s problems with love and other drugs.
Each week, the inbox of our venerable advice columnist, Miss Information, is flooded with queries. And although she makes a valiant effort, she cannot answer them all. To deal with the surplus, we've decided to turn to you. So, don your spectacles and help this woman out. You can give her advice in the comments below, or, if you'd like to share what you wrote with your friends, on our Facebook page.
I smoked weed for the first time at the beginning of September, with a guy I barely knew. We were both studying at nearby community colleges, met online, and really hit it off. Over the course of our friendship, I would drive thirty minutes from my house to his. We would smoke his bong and just hang out in his backyard. We never had sex, but we would hug it out whenever I was leaving. I don't know if he saw me as a potential hook-up, but I wouldn’t have minded. (Getting high makes me really horny, and I loved spending time with him one-on-one anyway.)
I live with my parents; recently, they found my stash and I got read the riot act for it. Later that night, I texted my friend for moral support, and he got angry at me for even mentioning marijuana on the phone — he could get arrested, he could lose his medical-marijuana card, it's my problem, not his, etc. I was surprised by how hurt and betrayed I felt. I told him he was a cold-hearted asshole, to which he responded with a novel of texts. I ended the night crying my eyes out.
The morning after, he texted me saying that he doesn't know why I got so pissed at him. I don't know what to do. Are my feelings for him going beyond friendship? Is my love of smoking pot clouding my judgment? Was his behavior over the line? And finally, should I put some distance between me and the pipe or just me and my friend?
— Half Baked
What say you, readers? Is she confusing one high for another? Is her friend one toke over the line? Or should she find another hook-up (in more ways than one)?