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Please Advise: My best friend keeps stealing my women unintentionally.

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Nerve readers lend a hand to a man who's an also-ran in love.

Each week, the inbox of our venerable advice columnist, Miss Information, is flooded with queries. And although she makes a valiant effort, she cannot answer them all. To deal with the surplus, we've decided to turn to you. So, don your spectacles and help this gentleman out. You can give him advice in the comments below, or, if you'd like to share what you wrote with your friends, on our Facebook page.

Dear Nerve,

My roommate and I have been best friends since we were eleven. But since we were eleven, he's somehow been magically attracting women away from me. Every time someone I'm interested in meets him, either by coming over or by going out as part of a group, she'll typically either wind up in his room or going out with him a few days later. I've made joking complaints about it, and he'll typically brush them off — he's either unaware of it or doesn't care.

I'm not a bad-looking guy, and I can typically do pretty well on my own. But for some reason, whenever it comes down to a girl's choosing between him and me, he's always the one that wins out. And it's not like this is a metaphor for our friendship: we're both doing well in our respective fields and there's little or no competition in our lives that isn't friendly.

Am I suffering from some kind of psychological curse and simply getting steamrolled because I think it's inevitable, or should I just keep anyone I'm interested in away from him?

—  Stuck in Second Place