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Please Advise: My boyfriend is too well-endowed for me.

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Nerve readers help out with one woman’s too-much-of-a-good-thing problem.

Each week, the inbox of our venerable advice columnist, Miss Information, is flooded with queries. And although she makes a valiant effort, she cannot answer them all. To deal with the surplus, we've decided to turn to you. So, don your spectacles and help this woman out. You can give her advice in the comments below, or, if you'd like to share what you wrote with your friends, on our Facebook page.

Dear Nerve,

My boyfriend of over a year and I had a great sex life. I stress the word "had,” because we’ve run into something of a problem. The problem? He's huge. Our first time, he nearly split me in half, and although I felt like I adjusted, several months later it was so painful I would cry and have to stop. I've seen doctors, who can't seem to find any solution or give me any advice.

I'm otherwise very open to pleasing him. I give him oral, hand jobs (neither of us are into anal) and encourage him to watch porn or do whatever he needs to do. But he really misses the sex. My concern is that he will eventually go elsewhere if he can't get it from me, and it would break my heart. He says he wouldn't do that, but who knows how long we'll have to go before I'll be able to have real sex again?

Can you give me any advice on how to have less painful sex? Am I torn or broken? Is there anything I can do to heal faster? Any tips or advice you can give would help tremendously.

— Square Peg, Round Hole