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Please Advise: My friend wants me to take her virginity.

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Nerve readers help out a guy who just wants to be a good friend.

Each week, the inbox of our venerable advice columnist, Miss Information, is flooded with queries. And although she makes a valiant effort, she cannot answer them all. To deal with the surplus, we've decided to turn to you. So, don your spectacles and help this gentleman out. You can give him advice in the comments below, or, if you'd like to share what you wrote with your friends, on our Facebook page.

Dear Nerve,

One of my oldest friends recently asked me to take her virginity. She's twenty-six, and for a variety of reasons of varying sensitivity, the deed has just never been done. She's starting to feel (in her own words) "a little desperate, a little left out, and a little lost." Though the idea was broached over drinks, she's asked me about it repeatedly since she maintains that she doesn't have any feelings for me, and that this would strictly be (again in her words) "an educational experience." 

I have mixed feelings about this: I don't really have a problem with the idea, but the more I think about it, the more I can't help but think that this is something we'll both regret later. It'll forever color our relationship, and something about it just smacks of high school to me. She's repeatedly reassured me that she thinks this is best, and admittedly, it's better that I "help her out" than some random guy. I just want what's best for her I don't want to be a source of regret for her, or always leave her wondering "what if?"

— A Good Friend