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Please Advise: Is It Okay To Get Back Together With My Hacker?
I'm back together with the man that hacked me. Is it doomed?
Each week, the inbox of our venerable advice columnist, Miss Information, is flooded with queries. And although she makes a valiant effort, she can't answer them all. To deal with the surplus, we've decided to turn to you. So, don your spectacles and help this woman out — give her advice in the comments below.
I just got back with the man I had been dating and living with for three years after spending two years apart from one another. We originally broke up because I found out he had hacked into all of my social media accounts—Facebook, Twitter, even my Gmail. There he began contacting men he suspected I had been in a relationship with before him. When a male friend confronted me about a "weird" message he'd received from me, I figured out what my boyfriend had done. I was horrified, broke up with him on the spot, and found a new apartment.
He never fell out of love with me and pursued me consistently for the next two years, making almost every grand gesture: sending flowers, gifts, and writing me songs.
I came back to him because although I've been in two serious relationships since, and moved even farther away from him, I still can't get him out of my head. Our jokes, our food, our philosophies, our TV preferences. We just jibe. I think he's changed, too. He lost weight, got out of debt, and he has a new incredible job. He swears he wasn't in a good place when he was stalking me online and is a new man. We just spent three drama-free, blissful weeks together on a trip. I'm afraid to tell my parents that we're back together and haven't yet. Most of all, I'm afraid to tell my best friend. I really find myself back in love again. Am I really making the mistake everyone will think I am?
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