Tatiana, age 27

What's the best reason to date a ballet dancer?
For the most part, dancers are passionate and engaging people. We're also very expressive physically, both in and out of the bedroom. But, to be honest, I think it's important to have your head on straight if you're going to date a dancer, or it'll cause some problems. I don't want to dissuade people from dating dancers, but just make sure you're emotionally secure before you do it. Once I found a stable non-dancer who didn't mind that another guy got to grope me for most of the day, I never looked back.

Is it true that the better you dance, the better you are in bed?
I know that's the common perception, but in ballet I think that rarely holds true. In fact, I can only think of one time that ballet has made the leap into the bedroom. I'll leave the details to your imagination.

What are some ballet moves anyone can incorporate into their sex life?
No moves, but in my experience guys love the costumes. But I can relate. I love the costumes, too!

What's the best way to pick up a ballet dancer?
I always appreciate it when a guy doesn't try to make ballet the entire topic of conversation. The last thing I want after a day of getting banged up is to talk about getting banged up. I also love passion. Be passionate about something and you'll have my ear for the evening. Also, memorize a couple of cool drinks.

What's the sexiest movie dance scene?
I love a man with a great butt. Dirty Dancing might be why I started dancing in the first place.

I recently ran into one of my old high-school teachers at a bar. We talked and ended up making out. At the end of the night, she asked if we could see each other again. I had fun, but I'm a little worried — should I back out or just go for it?
Ugh! Never! Though that might be because all of my former teachers look like shaved monkeys with smokers' coughs and yellow teeth.

I'm really turned on by the idea of watching my boyfriend have sex with another guy. He's been with guys before, but not for a long time. How do I gauge his interest in it without freaking him out?
Find out what kind of guy he was into and then subtly point out some guys on the street or in a movie that might be up his alley. See if you can prompt a conversation about rating hot actors and then mention you used to fantasize about two of your favorite actors making out. See how he reacts. Then down the line, maybe mention it again and play up how much it turns you on. Come Christmastime, you might get more than a candy cane in your stocking.

My girlfriend and I split up for a few weeks and got back together. I was celibate the entire time, but I'm beginning to think she slept around, possibly with one of our mutual friends. Should I ask her or just try to forget about it?
Forget about it. I hate it when a guy wants to know details about the people I've slept with. Inevitably, it feels like the guy is trying to compare notes to boost his ego. Plus, you two were split up at the time, so questioning her activities will only strain your already fragile relationship. By the way, if your mutual friend slept with her behind your back, knowing you still were invested in her emotionally, he's not really your friend. It might be time to take a hard look at who you hang with.

My ex and I are friends and we sometimes hang out one-on-one. Even though we're both dating other people now, I get the feeling that she still has feelings for me and might make a move some time. What can I do now to avoid an awkward situation later?
If you want to kill the mood, just mention to her that you're glad you two can still be friends without compromising your current relationship. Then set up an opportunity for her to meet and hang out with your current flame.

My girlfriend keeps asking me to "play rough." I want to please her, but the idea of "hurting" women — even playfully — freaks me out. How can I relax and enjoy it more?
Either you're into it or you're not. Not that you can't have special "rough nights," but I don't think that's going to be something you can grow to enjoy over time. Tell her what's up and if she still insists on more stick than carrot, move on.