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April 26, 2011
Melissa
Why date a female bodybuilder?
We understand a man's need for sports in a way that most women don't. And we are very in touch with ourselves, at least physically. In the past few years I've become far more balanced emotionally as well. It’s so healthy to get in the gym and work out those daily frustrations! It leads to a much healthier and happier relationship.
What made you want to become a female bodybuilder?
I am now a professional bodybuilder and a professional wrestler. But I started out as a powerlifter! I seem drawn to doing things that push the envelope on what people consider typically "feminine" or "masculine" endeavors. When I was a kid I remember seeing a report about the first women's Olympia in Sports Illustrated; the Olympia is an extremely prestigious bodybuilding competition. The photos of the women — so lean, so strong, so muscular, tanned, and beautiful — really stuck in my mind.
Years later, I started playing tennis which my parents — a doctor and a nurse — found acceptable. I got into weight training to make my game stronger. At my peak I reached ninth in the world, did the Olympia twice, and was on the covers and in all the top fitness magazines: Muscle & Fitness, Flex, Ironman, and many others. Now, on top of doing fitness modeling and pro bodybuilding, I’m an actress and a pro wrestler.
I have a serious crush on a senior employee at my job. It's been going on for months. Should I pursue this? And if so, how?
Office affairs have led to the downfall of many a woman, especially when it’s been with a "senior" employee. So be aware of this and know what you’re getting into. On one hand, it could lead to a beautiful relationship, but, on the other hand, if things go badly you could end up being fired. I would approach this with major caution.
I am casually dating a girl I like very much. The problem is that we've done this before, twice. Both times I've felt like I could have won her over if I'd been a little bit more of an asshole to her. Do you have any tips on how to snag the girl who can't be snagged?
I think it is always best to just be yourself. Do you really want to be playing games? If you aren't an asshole, then don't be one. I've seen the same scenario happen where complete wenches end up settling down with good guys, and I've seen that the men seem to respond to the bad treatment. It absolutely floors me. But I still can't be that way myself. Don't lower yourself to the level of so many other men in the world.
My boyfriend is pressuring me to tell him "my number." What he doesn't know is that I had a real wild streak before he knew me. I strongly believe in honesty and communication, but is this something he really must know?
No, he really doesn't need to know and it's out of line that he would even ask, but I do know men can get this way when it comes to their girlfriends. If he keeps pressing you, I would suggest telling a white lie. If you refuse to address the question, he will assume the worst, and if you answer with the truth, he probably won't be happy either.
In general no man wants to hear you have been with hundreds of guys. It’s a terrible double standard, because most men love to brag how many women they have slept with. If you’re going to tell a white lie, then what’s the magic number? I'd say, if you’re in your thirties, you can probably say twenty guys at the most. In your twenties, I'd go with around ten partners. Typically, immature men ask this type of question. So maybe you don't want to be with an immature man to begin with.
Commentarium (24 Comments)
Good advice, especially the first two. But...I have to admit, I'm trying hard not to be terrified.
+1
Those be some manly lookin women.
"Many elite female athletes supplement with anabolic steroids, boosting their natural testosterone levels, which makes them more sexually aggressive. In addition, a side effect of anabolic steroid use is an enlarged clitoris, which makes it more sensitive. Many female bodybuilders are very orgasmic via oral sex, and even the slightest stimulation will engorge the clitoris — much like a penis — and we’re ready for sexual action. " Oh yeah right. Last thing I want is sex with a chick that when she orgams, she's gonna fuckin crush me. I mean, imagine something like that happening as you're going down on one these chicks? Clit's extra sensitive,from steroids of all things? So the slightest is sudden death for me? I'm good.....
Great advice, really thoughtful when compared to how this column normally is (maybe they felt more pressure to represent their community well?) although I can't say I wasn't a little nervous for the one that was bragging about steroids enlarging her clitoris. Girl, that's not a good sign!
I honestly did not expect these women to be as wise and down to earth as they've come across here. I expected them to be narcissistic and airheaded. Just goes to show you can't judge a book etc. Great advice from each of them!
Amber is a sex worker (goddessoffetish.com), which is probably why she sounds like she's reading from a fantasy script. I mean, that's cool and all, but she is waaaaaayyyyy more representative of 'online fetish models' than 'female bodybuilders.'
And way more representative of males, generally.
That's some good internet sleuthing.
I've met Amber and must say that although she looks tough and can kick ass, she is one of the sweetest, patient and calm people I know. She's definitely great people and great company.
They had really good advice,better than other people who were interviewed for this column
I disagree about 'the number.' The more men a woman has been with, the hotter she is to me. I like it when a woman is or has been promiscuous, especially when she is comfortable with it. Knowing how many other men have been in there is a big turn-on. While this is probably the exception, I am also far from alone.
I love Sin.
i shall not be messing with these bitchez
I'm interested...
Shawn is brilliantly sexy
Years ago I hooked up with a body builderette. I can confirm that she had a monster clit. Made me think of the old Kinks song Lola; "I know what I am and I'm glad I'm a man and so is Lola" Her muscles were rock hard, very well defined, she smelled of light sweat, she was very much straight to the point. It was surreal.
Not to be mean, but they look like guys.
not to be mean, but you probably look like a cankled, muffin topped, no-chin sheepface boring ass derbyshire girl. if guys don't hold that against you, i don't see why you should be so averse to a little masculinity in the womenfolks.
7vMPh7 Edidn`t think about that. I'll tell my mother, she won`t believe it!!!
pKnn8o Hi! Everyone who reads this blog - Happy Reconciliation and Accord!!!
I'm a 43 yr old man who's been going with a 49 yr old woman for two years now, who's an amateur bodybuilder that's never competed as well as a full time college professor. Let me say this, she is a normal woman in almost every aspect and I love her heart, compassion, intellect, and outrageous sense of humor. She's incredibly hot and she's a man-magnet. Men constantly hit on her unless they know she's with me; women come up to her at the store and ask how they can get arms like hers. No one mistakes her as unfeminine - no way! She's never taken steroids and has a voracious sexual appetite all year long. She is remarkable in bed, not because she's muscular, but because she's confident and physical like me. We have THE BEST SEX ... the kind most people dream about and quite frankly, people our age couldn't dream of having unless they where in our shape AND loved each other as much as we do. I can't imagine being with anyone else now or ever again. Sometimes in the gym or even when we're out, I see people staring or trying to conceal themselves whispering about her to their companion. It doesn't bother me and sometimes it even turns me on! I'm proud of her and I love it when insecure guys are shamed by what she does in the gym. People are also caught off guard that she is a professor too - like you can't be buff, hot, AND highly intellectual simultaneously!!! She's awesome on all levels. Some other notes - She likes strong, confident, men as well. Although I'm a bit of a bodybuilder too, Im not freaky huge. I didn't have to be as big as I am to attract her. She liked me initially because I was smart, confident, funny, respectful and a leader and adventurous. Bottom line:many female bodybuilders are passionate usually in many aspects of their life. The same drive and commitment is found in their careers and personal relationships. Most don't use steroids and most are extremely feminine. If your lucky enough to find one as nice as mine, be yourself, and take your time to cultivate a great relationship (we're getting married next year!)
What has the world come to? This article is disgusting. Those women are not feminine and not attractive. Having an article that tries to convince me to date them is further proof of that. If I need an article telling me why I need to date a particular type of woman, that is a red flag. Sick...
i THINK BODYBUILDING WOMEN ARE REALLY HOT THEY HAVE GOT A NICE BODY THEY SHOULD BE TREATED THE SAME OTHER WOMEN ARE ALL THEY ARE IS GETTING BUFFER AND HOTTER