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April 26, 2011
Shawn
What's the sexiest thing about female bodybuilders?
We have strength and confidence.
Why are female bodybuilders better in bed?
I’m not sure that all female bodybuilders are necessarily "better" in bed, but if they are, I would wager it has to do with having an open mind. Being a female bodybuilder is often not accepted. So we’re more open-minded and not as judgmental because we don’t have a problem with doing something a bit different.
My boyfriend and I have a great relationship and great sex life. One of the things I admire most about him is how much he respects women. I'd like him throw me around a little bit, but that is far from something he would normally do. How do I get him to be more dominant without spelling it out for him?
I would suggest bringing up it up in conversation. Pretend that you read something about domination in a magazine. Then ask him if perhaps he ever gets a little bit bored with not trying something new. See what he says. Most likely he will ask a similar question in return and you could hint around what you would like to try.
I have a serious crush on a senior employee at my job. It's been going on for months. Should I pursue this? And if so, how?
I would first be sure the employee isn't in a committed relationship. If you've been crushing on this person for months, it's worth exploring in my opinion. This doesn't mean it has to go anywhere, but at least you'll know. I would suggest you begin by talking to him and eventually flirting with him. If he's interested, I think you'll know by the way he responds. If you're still not sure, take the plunge and ask him out.
My girlfriend is still good friends with her most recent ex-boyfriend. Their families are friends, they have mutual friends, and they meet up about once a month to hang out. We've only been together for three months, so I don't feel comfortable asking her not to spend time with him. Also, I know they dated right before we got together. Is it possible that they've moved to the "friend-zone" that quickly or is she cheating on me?
Only your girlfriend and her ex-boyfriend know the answer to that. However, they broke up for a reason and they could have broken up because they became more like friends near the end of their relationship. I do not advise you to tell her that she cannot hang out with him, regardless of how long you have been together. First, they were in one another's lives before you met and, secondly, you should not be with someone if you don't trust her. She is being upfront about what she is doing, so I doubt she's messing around.
I have genital warts. Yup, it sucks. What sucks even more is that it's really stopped me from dating. I avoid dating because I have no idea how to "have that conversation" with someone else. Also, I'm plain embarrassed. How and when is it appropriate to discuss this with a potential partner?
Yes, it does suck, but do you really want to be alone for the rest of your life? The time to discuss this is when you are at the point in your relationship that you are comfortable becoming sexual. Obviously, do not leave it until the point where you clothes are off, but as things become hotter and heavier, open up and talk about it. Also, there is a dating site specifically for people with STIs. Everyone on the site has an STI and makes a note of what they have in their profile. It eliminates the embarrassment because everyone there is in the same boat.
Commentarium (24 Comments)
Good advice, especially the first two. But...I have to admit, I'm trying hard not to be terrified.
+1
Those be some manly lookin women.
"Many elite female athletes supplement with anabolic steroids, boosting their natural testosterone levels, which makes them more sexually aggressive. In addition, a side effect of anabolic steroid use is an enlarged clitoris, which makes it more sensitive. Many female bodybuilders are very orgasmic via oral sex, and even the slightest stimulation will engorge the clitoris — much like a penis — and we’re ready for sexual action. " Oh yeah right. Last thing I want is sex with a chick that when she orgams, she's gonna fuckin crush me. I mean, imagine something like that happening as you're going down on one these chicks? Clit's extra sensitive,from steroids of all things? So the slightest is sudden death for me? I'm good.....
Great advice, really thoughtful when compared to how this column normally is (maybe they felt more pressure to represent their community well?) although I can't say I wasn't a little nervous for the one that was bragging about steroids enlarging her clitoris. Girl, that's not a good sign!
I honestly did not expect these women to be as wise and down to earth as they've come across here. I expected them to be narcissistic and airheaded. Just goes to show you can't judge a book etc. Great advice from each of them!
Amber is a sex worker (goddessoffetish.com), which is probably why she sounds like she's reading from a fantasy script. I mean, that's cool and all, but she is waaaaaayyyyy more representative of 'online fetish models' than 'female bodybuilders.'
And way more representative of males, generally.
That's some good internet sleuthing.
I've met Amber and must say that although she looks tough and can kick ass, she is one of the sweetest, patient and calm people I know. She's definitely great people and great company.
They had really good advice,better than other people who were interviewed for this column
I disagree about 'the number.' The more men a woman has been with, the hotter she is to me. I like it when a woman is or has been promiscuous, especially when she is comfortable with it. Knowing how many other men have been in there is a big turn-on. While this is probably the exception, I am also far from alone.
I love Sin.
i shall not be messing with these bitchez
I'm interested...
Shawn is brilliantly sexy
Years ago I hooked up with a body builderette. I can confirm that she had a monster clit. Made me think of the old Kinks song Lola; "I know what I am and I'm glad I'm a man and so is Lola" Her muscles were rock hard, very well defined, she smelled of light sweat, she was very much straight to the point. It was surreal.
Not to be mean, but they look like guys.
not to be mean, but you probably look like a cankled, muffin topped, no-chin sheepface boring ass derbyshire girl. if guys don't hold that against you, i don't see why you should be so averse to a little masculinity in the womenfolks.
7vMPh7 Edidn`t think about that. I'll tell my mother, she won`t believe it!!!
pKnn8o Hi! Everyone who reads this blog - Happy Reconciliation and Accord!!!
I'm a 43 yr old man who's been going with a 49 yr old woman for two years now, who's an amateur bodybuilder that's never competed as well as a full time college professor. Let me say this, she is a normal woman in almost every aspect and I love her heart, compassion, intellect, and outrageous sense of humor. She's incredibly hot and she's a man-magnet. Men constantly hit on her unless they know she's with me; women come up to her at the store and ask how they can get arms like hers. No one mistakes her as unfeminine - no way! She's never taken steroids and has a voracious sexual appetite all year long. She is remarkable in bed, not because she's muscular, but because she's confident and physical like me. We have THE BEST SEX ... the kind most people dream about and quite frankly, people our age couldn't dream of having unless they where in our shape AND loved each other as much as we do. I can't imagine being with anyone else now or ever again. Sometimes in the gym or even when we're out, I see people staring or trying to conceal themselves whispering about her to their companion. It doesn't bother me and sometimes it even turns me on! I'm proud of her and I love it when insecure guys are shamed by what she does in the gym. People are also caught off guard that she is a professor too - like you can't be buff, hot, AND highly intellectual simultaneously!!! She's awesome on all levels. Some other notes - She likes strong, confident, men as well. Although I'm a bit of a bodybuilder too, Im not freaky huge. I didn't have to be as big as I am to attract her. She liked me initially because I was smart, confident, funny, respectful and a leader and adventurous. Bottom line:many female bodybuilders are passionate usually in many aspects of their life. The same drive and commitment is found in their careers and personal relationships. Most don't use steroids and most are extremely feminine. If your lucky enough to find one as nice as mine, be yourself, and take your time to cultivate a great relationship (we're getting married next year!)
What has the world come to? This article is disgusting. Those women are not feminine and not attractive. Having an article that tries to convince me to date them is further proof of that. If I need an article telling me why I need to date a particular type of woman, that is a red flag. Sick...
i THINK BODYBUILDING WOMEN ARE REALLY HOT THEY HAVE GOT A NICE BODY THEY SHOULD BE TREATED THE SAME OTHER WOMEN ARE ALL THEY ARE IS GETTING BUFFER AND HOTTER