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Sex Advice From Comic Con Booth Girls
"Just be genuine, and don't approach me like I'm an unattainable cartoon character..."
by Carlos Cabrera
Carissa Ann Santos, 24
Booth girls seem both approachable and unattainable. Is that fair?
I definitely get that vibe from some of the girls here, or at other trade shows that I've worked, but it's interesting because I'm super-friendly and super-approachable. I don't want to fall into that category of the unattainable model.
What other kind of modeling work do you do?
I work for a few fashion designers in New York City, and I also do a lot of fitness modeling, and some print stuff.
What could a nerd here at Comic Con do to get your number?
Surprisingly, I've given out my number a lot at this show [laughs]. I'm just really into all sorts of people. They just have to be authentic and really genuine, and not approach me like I'm an unattainable cartoon character, but just a person, like you. That's all.
What kind of guys do you go for?
I don't think I necessarily have a type, but I do usually find myself with someone in a band. I'm also into saving the earth — which sounds really silly 'cause I'm at Comic Con with a bunch of superheroes — but for me it just means concentrating on purifying my body and the planet, so I find myself seeking out people who are on that wavelength. I know it sounds nerdy, but booth girls can be nerdy, too.
Do you have other nerdy proclivities of your own, or is this really a day job?
I'm into raw food, which a lot of people think is nerdy. I'm also into eco villages and sustainable farming, so that's pretty bad, but in relation to Comic Con, I usually just tell people Spider-Man is my boyfriend. I have a heart locket with Peter Parker in it. That's about as nerdy as I get.
You've been spending a lot of time in costume here. What costumes do you find attractive on others?
Spider-Man. I mean, someone came over here before in a Spider-Man outfit, head-to-toe. I don't even know what he looked like, and I was like, "Can you please touch me?" He actually lifted me over his shoulders, like that rescue hold. It was the highlight of my weekend.
If that's the best experience you've had, what's the worst experience you've had here at Comic Con?
I actually had something of a stalker. He just creeped around the booth all weekend, and then he came by with presents in these little paper bags for me. They were these strange heart necklaces. It was just really awkward, because I'm very friendly, and I'm working so I want everyone to feel comfortable, but I was super uncomfortable. I had to be like, "How many pictures do you want with me?" so that was intense. It was unpleasant, 'cause I don't like being aggressive with anybody, but I felt like I had to.
Do you ever feel objectified?
I usually do feel objectified doing this stuff, but at Comic Con, I know that it's for a greater purpose. It's not just about me and how I look — I'm representing a show, or a network. It's more fun. Plus I get to wear this crazy makeup, so it's not just like, "Hey, I want your body," y'know?
Do you ever get away with anything because of your good looks?
In life or as a booth girl?
How about both?
Yeah, I think I do. I'm not sure that I'm proud of it, or necessarily want it. Not waiting on lines, getting free things — I think it's a bonus of being a model, or just a pretty girl, but it's really not necessary. I've never wanted it.
Why are booth girls better in bed?
One thing would be that people just look at us a lot in general. We kind of have this edge where we think we're beautiful, so it allows us to be more open, more comfortable with ourselves. I'm not saying that someone who isn't a model or a booth girl couldn't feel that way, but if I had to give a tip, it'd just be try not to be insecure. Just say, "I know I'm hot, I know I've got this," and go for it.
Are you in a relationship at the moment?
Yes, I've actually been dating someone for three years, which is a very long time for me to be in a committed relationship. I'm not saying I don't enjoy committed relationships — I'm just not sure that they're natural. There are a lot of incredible beings out there and it's amazing to experience different types and different tastes. But I do love him, and the fact that we live together helps.
How can I convince my girlfriend to wear a costume for me in bed?
Don't make any type of comparison. You don't want to make your girlfriend feel like she's less than the person she's dressing up as. I think sharing her beauty and really acknowledging how gorgeous she is, how wonderful she makes you feel, would create a space for her to want to express and experience new things with you. It's about acknowledging who she is for you, sexually, and then making it an adventure you can have together, for both of you.
If someone cheats on you, what should you do?
I've been in that situation before. I stayed in the relationship, but I created this distance between us which allowed me to cheat on him. It just wasn't very stable or healthy for either of us. Now that I've grown as a person, I believe anything can be resolved with communication. I don't think that he or I cheating would break us up. I think it'd create a space to figure things out. Obviously, cheating doesn't work, so what would make him cheat? What can I do? What can he do? It could actually be grounds to make a stronger relationship. I'm not encouraging you to cheat — I'm just saying it doesn't have to be the end.