Anders Nilsen, 38

Author of Big Questions

Why are cartoonists good in bed?
I think I'm going to have to quibble on the premise of the question. I'm not sure they are! I think a lot of us are hermits. We end up spending a lot of time alone and liking spending a lot of time alone.

Any dating experiences that have made it into your comics?
I've done a bunch of drawings of my current girlfriend, which I enjoy doing because she's beautiful to look at. They usually don't have plots or talking. They don't really qualify as comics.

Has being a cartoonist gotten you laid? Do you have any groupies?
Ha! Not exactly. But I did meet my current girlfriend through comics. In that way, maybe I sort of did. I guess you could say she was a fan. She was a fellow cartoonist, and I met her because she organized the Comics Symposium at the School of the Art Institute of Chicago.

What's the best way to pick up a cartoonist?
Ask to look at their sketchbook. It's a good way of showing interest. You get to find out about them a little bit. I think people's work and their personalities are often related. It's often the case that, if you like somebody a lot, you're going to like their work, and if you don't like someone's work, there's a pretty good chance you're not going to connect with them.

I'm a straight girl, but I think I have feelings for my best friend, who's a woman. What should I do?
Ask to see her sketchbook? I don't know — I think you've got to kind of broach the subject. You can do it in a subtle way, in a way where if the answer is clearly "no, I'm not into you" or "I'm not into you that way," you can kind of forget that conversation happened. Either it'll kind of get its own momentum, or just getting it out there will sort of defuse it for you.

My husband wants an open relationship. I'm kind of into the idea, but how can we make it work?
One-hundred-percent openness and honesty and being into it for the right reasons. You've got to be sure that you're clear with one another that you're the primary and you're not interested in moving on or whatever. I know several people who've kind of tried it, and it hasn't really worked. That's why I feel like, if it's going to work, you have to be super-purposeful and clear about it.

I'm thirty-four and newly single with a kid. Is it kosher, on the first few dates, not to mention that I have a teenage daughter?
I think on the first date, if it doesn't come up, it's probably reasonable. But by the time you get to "yeah, this is somebody I want to see again," that should probably be in the air. I guess it depends on what you're looking for. If you're looking for a life partner, I think that being honest about things that are going to be dealbreakers before people get too attached is kind of important. If you're just trying to get laid, that's a different story.


Commentarium (11 Comments)

Dec 13 11 - 2:27am

I loved Big Questions so much I got it for three friends for Christmas. So, fuck yeah, Anders Nilsen.

Jan 08 12 - 2:51am

It really is a great book. Also, UGH/SIGH: Anders Nilsen so hot! I nurse a long-term crush on that guy, to the point of being super awkward when I run into him every couple of years.

Dec 13 11 - 2:35pm
Big Bang

I'm a woman in comics and I've gotten hella laid because of it. Not everyone who works in this field is isolated and/or socially awkward! Just puttin' that out there.

(I'm a cartoonist and I approve this message.)

Dec 15 11 - 5:04pm
also not Kate Beaton

I'm a woman in comics and I've also gotten laid because of it numerous times and I would agree with the interviewees that cartoonists are generally not good in bed.

Dec 15 11 - 6:22pm
patty leidy

I've never been able to find an AVAILABLE, well groomed cartoonist I WANTED to take to bed....the majority lack social skills and a razor and comb...big sigh on my part.

Dec 13 11 - 4:22pm
Sad But True

None of these are Kate Beaton so I don't care.

Dec 14 11 - 10:23pm

I will beat the next person who says "dealbreaker" into the pavement.

Dec 15 11 - 1:21pm
Kate Christensen

Emily Flake, I love you!

Dec 15 11 - 6:21pm
patty leidy

I always warn my future lovers, I'm a cartoonist, beware I WILL be writing about this eventually.. HEEEE

Dec 16 11 - 1:32pm
asterios papsmear

anders totally nails it. especially the sketchbook thing. thank you for being a good representative for cartoonists everywhere, anders!

i'm also a woman in comics, and i really try to avoid dating within the scene because i don't want to shit where i eat. it's risky. but i find that immediately outside the pool of cartoonists, dudes have wanted to fuck me *more* because i was a cartoonist than if i wasn't.

it does attract a certain kind of personality and it is a certain type of lifestyle. at their best, cartoonists are honest, funny, kind, and hardworking people, and make great company. but they're often introverts and can be pretty sensitive and lost in their own heads. you aren't meeting new people working in your room all day so it's a little harder to put yourself out there. if you don't already know how, it can be an uphill struggle.

but nobody's not getting ass MERELY because they're a cartoonist. it's like, honey, no, you're not getting laid because you're really self depreciating and have low self-esteem. that doesn't get anybody anything.

Dec 17 11 - 11:39am

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