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Brooklyn Baller, 29

I’m a straight girl, but drag kings turn me on. Does that make me bi?
It doesn’t make you bi. It makes you awesome.

How can I convince my girlfriend to try drag for me? She says she’d feel silly.
She shouldn’t feel silly — drag is a fantasy. I know kings that have been asked to go to bed with a couple because one of them wouldn’t try drag. Let her know if she won’t do it, someone else will.

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It’s great that my boyfriend can go for hours, but sometimes I get bored. How long is a reasonable amount of time to have sex before telling him time’s up?
My girlfriend and I usually make love for two hours, but that’s a lot to some people. You should talk about your boredom outside the bedroom. Tell him what would make it more interesting to you. Call it constructive criticism.

My boyfriend loves going down on me, but I can’t seem to orgasm from it. Is that normal? Can I change that?
Not everybody can come from oral, but your boyfriend has a duty to try. Tell him to add penetration, add vibration and hang in there. When you’re going down on someone, you have to be a soldier.

I have this one particular fetish that a lot of people consider weird. How many times should I sleep with a girl before telling her about it?
Wait at least two months before busting it out. By then, you’ll have a bond that will make her more likely to indulge your fetish. If you try it two weeks in, she’ll probably be like, “Peace.”

Are crotchless panties hot or unsanitary?
Unsanitary, yet hot. Put them on right before you take them off.

Pedro Asty, 29
www.myspace.com/bayoucityGendermyn

My girlfriend and I never have spontaneous sex because she makes me shower before she goes down on me. Am I right to be offended?
Unless I’d been hiking all day, I’d take it personally. I’d say if she doesn’t love your junk, that’s a dealbreaker.

I’m a straight girl, but drag kings turn me on. Does that make me bi?
No, that’s the beauty of drag kings. Drag performance brings out everybody’s sexual curiosities.

I have a crush on a drag king, but she has tons of groupies. How can I stand out?
I’m always impressed by people who get it, who are interested in the political genderfuck of drag. Talk about that after the show — that’s hot.

It’s great that my boyfriend can go for hours, but sometimes I get bored. How long is a reasonable amount of time to have sex before telling him time’s up?
Sounds like he’s bored too. Ask him what he’s not getting — if you turn him on more too, that should speed things along.

I’m a really femme woman and lesbians never realize I’m flirting with them. How do I make it obvious without coming on too strong?
I’d love for a femme to compliment my package. That would let me know she’s queer. Grabbing it might be a little over the top, but not out of the question.

kt shorb, 29
www.ktshorb.com

I have a crush on a drag king and I want to hit on her. What do I need to know?
During the performance, don’t throw panties. Not cool.

Are crotchless panties hot or unsanitary?
Just go commando. So much hotter.

It’s great that my boyfriend can go for hours, but sometimes I get bored. How long is a reasonable amount of time to have sex before telling him time’s up?
Talk to him outside the bedroom about new things you’d like to try. Then, when you’re together and you start to get bored, say, “Remember that thing I talked about? Let’s do that now.”

My boyfriend loves going down on me, but I can’t seem to orgasm from it. Is that normal? Can I change that?
If you’re more turned on before the sex begins, you’re more likely to come faster. Try to warm up in advance with some porn or erotica. That should work — unless he’s really bad at it.


Gage West, 30
www.myspace.com/bayoucityGendermyn

My boyfriend loves going down on me, but I can’t seem to orgasm from it. Is that normal? Can I change that?
I used to think I could never orgasm, never have multiple orgasms, never ejaculate. But everything I thought my body could never do, I’ve done. The only time something becomes impossible is when you close the door on it. Even then, some women have said they couldn’t do something and I’ve made them do it. Never give up.

My girlfriend and I never have spontaneous sex because she makes me shower before she goes down on me. Am I right to be offended?
You can’t make anybody like anything. But I would tell her how that made me feel and ask if she could learn to love the natural pussy, because a freshly scrubbed pussy is not the same as a natural one. The natural one is a lot more powerful, and not just in an olfactory sense.

It’s great that my boyfriend can go for hours, but sometimes I get bored. How long is a reasonable amount of time to have sex before telling him time’s up?
I dated a girl who just wanted to keep going until my hands were shaking. That’s not always best. When you’re thinking about groceries, it’s time to call it off.

I have this one particular fetish that a lot of people consider weird. How many times should I sleep with a girl before breaking it out?
Be up front. If you can only get off when somebody pisses on you, you should probably say that right away.

How can I have a one-night stand without resorting to Craigslist?
Become a drag king.

Are simultaneous orgasms a myth?
If I’m really connected to someone, it’s inevitable. It’s a mountain to climb, but oh, what a view.
 

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