Sofia

What makes sleeping with a graffiti artist great?
We come from a male-dominated scene, and so we tend to be bossy, sweet, adventurous, and know how to get what we want. We're not afraid of exploring random public places late at night. We crave the highs, and anything that involves an adrenaline rush.

Do you ever bring your work into the bedroom?
Not really. Painting is work. Love is another story. Maybe some bed-talk about which project or wall we want to hit next, but that’s about it.

Does someone's skill at graffiti make them more attractive or compensate for deficiencies in other areas?
Definitely! In the beginning, a lady’s got to hold a tough attitude in order to be taken seriously, not as a sex symbol. Once you prove your painting skills, and receive respect from your peers, its time to dress up! Most writers don’t show their faces in public, so you create an audience by your skills.

Are you generally attracted to other artists, or do you look outside of your field?
No artists for me! Can’t deal with the ego trip and drama. I do like guys that rock in their field: music, tattooing, sports, and other professions.

My girlfriend's parents look at me as a deadbeat because I'm working a part-time job while trying to make my art happen. She's been super-cool about it, but I'm starting to worry that it might be wearing on her. What should I do about this kind of pressure in our relationship?
It all depends what you want in that relationship. Some guys need more time to become more professional in their fields, especially artists. There is nothing wrong with being an artist, and I know lots of graffiti writers who manage to live from their art once they get organized and start focusing on more mural commissions, design projects, and solid studio practice. So it’s possible that, one day, you can quit that day job and dedicate yourself one-hundred percent to your art.

My boyfriend and I are stuck in a dating rut. Any tips?
New York is such a great city to improvise basic situationist practices. Take her on a dérive on the High Line or to the abandoned structures near the riverside in Greenpoint. The Hudson River Park nourishes my passion for sunsets near the water while cargo ships pass by. It will remind you of Gabriel Garcia Marquez novels.

I tend to take the Bill Clinton "anything shy of penetration is not intercourse" towards cheating, but I know a lot of people that don't feel the same way. Am I being a dick?
Sadly, there quite a few dudes out there who live by this quote. As long as she knows that's your way of thinking and it works for both, then cool. If you’re doing it behind her back, it still sounds like cheating to me.

My girlfriend and I are both serious artists, but I think her work is terrible — and she wants to collaborate, try and put an exhibition together, the whole bit. I really like her a lot and the relationship's great, but I think that if I tell her how I really feel, it'll tank things. What should I do?
That’s funny! No wonder I don’t date artists. You don’t have to tell her anything. If the art is that bad, there is nothing you can do, not even a constructive criticism will save you... it sucks! Just try to keep doing your work. Avoid that duo show — for your career’s sake.