"James"

Has posting your photos online brought you any real-life sex encounters?
Yup! Posting online is what build up my confidence enough to go and perform in porn. My first "date" with a guy was as a result of posting on a gay forum.

What are the benefits of dating an internet exhibitionist?
We usually know a lot more about sex than the standard internet-goer and we are usually more open-minded to new things in the bedroom. A lot of exhibitionists, however, can be needy; their exhibitionism is actually just a cry for attention. But most of us aren't like that. We're a friendly, happy bunch of people who love to show off our bodies to get other people off.

Does someone who posts naked photos online have a responsibility to tell their significant other?
Not particularly. Being naked is nothing to be ashamed of, and anyone who mocks their partner for being naked online needs to do some growing up. Exhibitionism isn't just about showing off, it's about boosting self-confidence and it would be selfish to forbid your partner from posting pictures of themselves online.

I just found out that my boyfriend once had sex with a prostitute in college, and it kind of disgusts me. How can I get over it?
The prostitute was just a woman — like you — and he probably regrets it as much as you hate it. It's important for you to get over it if you think you have a future with this guy. You need to focus on why you hate it so much, isolate that feeling, and move past it — if you love him enough, it won't matter.

My girlfriend wants my Facebook password. I don't have anything to hide, but I just don't like the idea. She's calling it a trust issue. What should I do?
Don't give it to her. Ever. This is a general message to anyone in a relationship or going into one: never accept that your partner is allowed into your private life. If they can't trust you and aren't willing to talk about why they want to control you, then they are not for you. 

I'm gay, and I'm dating someone who isn't out to his family. He's very close to them, but just hasn't come out yet. We're both thirty-two, and we've been dating for a year and a half. When I met his family, he introduced me as his roommate. I'm not sure how much longer I can put up with it, but I can't force him to come out to his family. What should I do?
Being gay/bi myself, I can say that you can't push him, but you need to make sure he know that he can't hide it forever. Most of the time, gay men who don't come out don't believe that that they "have to," and it's easy to keep putting it off. It is important, and his parents need to know, but all you can do is be there for him when he eventually does it — he's going to need someone to come to and talk about it. Besides, they probably think that their son is gay already.One-and-a-half years with no girls and only a "roommate?" That's not fooling anybody.

Commentarium (16 Comments)

Apr 11 12 - 7:17am
pv

What? No links to their sites?

Apr 11 12 - 9:34am
MSM

Pony up Nerve.

Apr 11 12 - 10:17am
Alex Heigl

Condition of participation -- sorry guys.

Apr 11 12 - 3:54pm
MSM

Fair enough.

Apr 11 12 - 4:01pm
GW_mod

The condition of participation was that the names were changed and the community location not be featured in the article - I have double-checked with those featured (that are still active) and the community mods. We have given the OK to link there in the comments here: http://www.reddit.com/r/gonewild/

Apr 11 12 - 4:29pm
Nerve Fella

Feel free to link this article on r/gonewild!

Apr 15 12 - 6:41pm
KH

I love that reddit thread! Wow, so much better than porn.

Apr 11 12 - 8:38am
Nood Dood

I'd like to know what some of these sites are, as I'd like to participate. Amateur Album is the one I use the most, but it's not perfect.

Apr 11 12 - 3:20pm
Lendar

I'd echo "wanting to know about more of these", yeah. I post on zoig.com and while I get plenty of thrill from it, why not look around a bit eh?

Apr 11 12 - 4:02pm
GW_mod

Link added (above in the comments)

Apr 11 12 - 10:01am
mandibular

Well, Nancy's jawline IS quite lovely, if perhaps less obvious than some of her other charms, so it seems fair enough to me.

Apr 11 12 - 3:00pm
Grady LaLa

I'm an online ascii exhibitionist:

(.)(.)

Apr 11 12 - 5:21pm
djg

snerk

Apr 12 12 - 9:23am
H&HHvDP

I am particularly amused by the way 'Nancy''s hair makes a little heart shape on her bosom. I wonder if this is intentional? It is really rather sweet.

Apr 13 12 - 8:54am
M

Ohhhhhhhhhhh

As a weirdo online exhibitionist pervert, I approve this set of advice.

Apr 16 12 - 9:08am
Fh

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