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Has posting your photos online brought you any real-life sex encounters?
Posting my photos online was, unknowingly, my introduction to an awesome community of people. Exhibitionists, artists, musicians, voyeurs, you name it. You really get to know people rather intimately and, occasionally, meet someone that makes you want to remove the mask of anonymity and say hello. TL;DR — yes.
What are the benefits of dating an internet exhibitionist?
I'd say it depends on the expectations of the people involved. If someone enjoys the idea of having me to themselves, while I'm displaying myself otherwise, and vice-versa, then great, it's hot! Of course, along with benefits, there are risks. I think it's only fun if both partners are in on the fun, and not just one.
Would you tell someone about it on a first date?
Trying to picture yourself sitting down in a restaurant on a first date, discussing being naked on the internet, is rather difficult. I probably wouldn't go out of my way to announce that there are photos of my nude self on the internet. I wouldn't hide it, but it's kind of akin to discussing politics on a first date; do you really want to jump in both feet first on such a sticky issue? Perhaps. Not likely, though.
Does someone who posts naked photos online have a responsibility to tell their significant other?
Probably not so much a responsibility as it is a courtesy. Worst-(ish) case scenario, it comes up at some inconvenient time in the future, and your SO is shocked or confused or whatever. I'd rather them know about it than have their buddy link to one of my photos. I would hope that everyone has enough trust in their relationship to open that kind of dialog.
Have your photos ever accidentally leaked out into your real life? Have co-workers, friends or family stumbled upon them?
Yeah. A couple of friends had recognized my jawline (of all things?), and my Canucks jersey was a dead giveaway to people who know me. I half-expected someone to recognize me eventually and thankfully, they were really cool about it!
I just found out that my boyfriend once had sex with a prostitute in college, and it kind of disgusts me. How can I get over it?
I think most people did some pretty dumb stuff in college. If you think you were above that, well, you may have a lot more disappointment coming your way in life. Talk to him about it, work it out. Forgive him, or don't. You can't change what already happened, but you can certainly work on resolving your issues for the future.
My girlfriend wants my Facebook password. I don't have anything to hide, but I just don't like the idea. She's calling it a trust issue. What should I do?
Red flag! There's a huge line between trust and privacy. She should never expect you to just hand over something private when she asks for it because it's a "trust thing." Everyone needs their space. Obviously this is not a black-and-white issue, but as far as Facebook passwords go, it's probably only the beginning. For the sake of your future, please learn how to say "no" in the most respectful, matter-of-fact way possible.
I'm gay, and I'm dating someone who isn't out to his family. He's very close to them, but just hasn't come out yet. We're both thirty-two, and we've been dating for a year and a half. When I met his family, he introduced me as his roommate. I'm not sure how much longer I can put up with it, but I can't force him to come out to his family. What should I do?
The kind of stress this puts on your relationship must be difficult. First, I'm sorry — that is a terrible situation. Second, you're right in not putting pressure on him to come out — all you can do is support him and let him make his own choices. However, you should talk with him and let him know how much of an issue this is for you, and how much of a strain it's putting on your relationship. Coming out to family is hard, but it's not impossible. Good luck to you both!
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