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davideDavide, 26

How do I seduce an Italian man?
You know what I don’t recommend? You seducing an Italian man! I don’t really like the way my friends go after women. I always advise my American girlfriends to avoid most Italian men because their view of a man-woman relationship is oftentimes embarrassingly cliché and outdated. I call this the "Dolce Vita Complex" the Italian man thinks he is simultaneously Marcello Mastroianni and Baby Jesus.

My orgasms these days have been kind of weak. Any tips on how I can intensify them?
There are two ways. As a man, one way is to cultivate different techniques to help control your orgasms, to try and not ejaculate as long as you can. The other way which is completely under-rated is sober-morning sex, when all your senses are awake and functioning (plus you can actually keep the memory of how good it was). I think there isn’t enough sober-morning sex in a city like New York, where the majority of sexual activities in all social and age groups revolve around working hard and partying harder.

This guy I’m sleeping with grunts too much during sex — how can I tell him, kindly, to shut up?
You can use the fetish excuse and stick a ball in his mouth. Or I would just find someone new.

My boyfriend is very flirtatious with other women when we go out. It makes me so jealous even though he tells me he loves me. Should I be bothered by this?

There are two sides to this. On the one hand, flirting is part of the way people socialize. It doesn’t necessarily have to have a negative connotation to it, because people flirt all day, even in the work place. Flirting is a way of communicating and depending on the seriousness of the relationship it shouldn’t be a problem. But, if you spend all night flirting with someone else, it’s like why even bother going out with the person you’re with? In the end your focus should be where your heart is.

I feel I’m really boring with my hands when I make out and have sex with guys. Any tips on how I can get creative with them?
Creative ways to use your hands is to not use them tie them up!

I’m trying to be less vanilla and more edgy sexually these days. Any wild sexual experiences you recommend?
If you want more fun in bed, don’t do it in bed! Do it in different locations. I would recommend rooftops and cabs. I have to say, if you’re in New York you have to accommodate your sexual activities to the city. New York is great when it comes to sex during rooftops, because you have a great view.

I’m horrible at picking up girls, any original one-liners or pick-up lines I can get away with?
I usually get away with directly telling her she’s beautiful and asking her digits. It’s super-direct and the complete anti-pick-up line. Girls appreciate guys who are direct no bullshit!

Francesco, 30

How can I seduce an Italian man?
You must be beautiful, intelligent, and funny that’s to begin with, but there are a lot of other ways. The most important thing you need is feeling and passion with your partner. Once you have that, everything happens automatically. You start kissing, then go to the neck, then go down, down, down…

My orgasms these days have been kind of weak. Any tips on how I can intensify them?
Can I answer in a dirty way? The orgasm is nice usually, but if you want another version, maybe come in the face of the girl or in the mouth of the girl. It can be something different from the usual routine. Or, you can fuck her in the ass.francesco

This guy I’m sleeping with grunts too much during sex — how can I tell him, kindly, to shut up?
Just put your hand on his mouth and that’s all, it will shut him up. I don’t like to make too much noise because I like to hear the noise of my partner. I like to see my girl dying and suffering from feeling pleasure, and hear the noise through her.

My boyfriend is very flirtatious with other women when we go out. It makes me so jealous even though he tells me he loves me. Should I be bothered by this?
I believe a little flirting in the couple is healthy to keep the relationship, but if the boy flirts too much with too many girls then you must say something. But it’s also nice to have a girl come up to you and say "don’t flirt with other girls" because you feel the girl has power, and she wants you, and that’s good. I appreciate that from the girl.

I feel I’m really boring with my hands when I make out and have sex with guys. Any tips on how I can get creative with them?
I like when girls touch my hair or my face and put pressure on my ass but nothing too crazy. I heard lots of men like when the women put the finger in the ass of the man and the man likes it so it actually should be stimulating. So maybe in some relationships finger-in-the-ass can be helpful, but I like more the romantic and passionate ways.

I invited a guy over for a third date and I want to make a sexy dinner. Any recommendations?
Definitely good wine! I recommend the girl should cook something with fish or shellfish to go with white wine, if it’s meat, then red wine. Maybe try to make pasta, and dress sexy, and wait with a bottle of wine.

I’m trying to be less vanilla and more edgy sexually these days. Any wild sexual experiences you recommend?
There are a lot of positions but the most important thing for me is the feeling with the person. So you can fuck in the classic missionary position but still have a lot of pleasure and make it intense. One crazy thing I remember is I fucked a girl on the edge of a window. She was sitting on the window, basically the people from outside could see her back, and I was fucking her inside. It wasn’t extremely crazy but it was a lot of fun.

Virginia, 26

This guy I’m sleeping with grunts too much during sex — how can I tell him, kindly, to shut up?
That’s terrible. It’s always hard to say such a thing because he doesn’t realize he’s being annoying. Maybe find an excuse, like say, "The neighbors came to me and said we are being too noisy."

How can I seduce an Italian woman?
Approach her in a smart and funny way and by not being too pushy, like asking her for her number right away. Make her understand that you like her by making her laugh.

My orgasms these days have been kind of weak. Any tips on how I can intensify them?virginiav
You should tell your partner what you like and have him do it. Something that works is stimulating the clit before having actual sex, so ask him to go down on you.

My boyfriend is very flirtatious with other women when we go out. It makes me so jealous even though he tells me he loves me. Should I be bothered by this?
No, don’t say anything because jealousy in this case really doesn’t work. It would show him that you are insecure about the relationship and that is not cool at all. I think if he is just looking at other girls but he’s faithful to you then don’t say anything. If there is a situation and he gives more attention to someone else than you, then yes, I would say something.

I feel I’m really boring with my hands when I make out and have sex with guys. Any tips on how I can get creative with them?
Preferably I like to scratch, not a lot but a little. Scratch on the back or a little spank. Recently this guy I slept with had my scratch marks and he was really proud of that. He was like, "I love it!"

What are some sexy words and phrases to whisper to a man that will make him melt and want to strip off my clothes?
I don’t talk so much, but I make him understand that I’m having pleasure. And when I’m coming I say it, in a sexy way. When you say you are coming, I think it helps your partner to come, too.

I’m trying to be less vanilla and more edgy sexually these days. Any wild sexual experiences you recommend?
Trying new things in bed makes the relationship or even a date very alive, so maybe a good thing is to not do it in bed. Go in kitchens or on the floor. I did it in places other than the bedroom, like in the kitchen, on the beach, in the car, once in the bathroom, in the tub. That is a good one showers are amazing.