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Sex Advice From Joss Whedon Fans
What have any of Whedon's shows taught you about dating?
That it's deadly and the person you're with could become someone else at the drop of a hat. The more you love someone, the more likely they will become possessed, chopped in half, shot, have someone else's demon spawn, or land the ship safely, but die anyway.
What is the best reason to date a Whedon fan?
Open-minded kinkiness abounds.
A friend of mine asked me to be part of a threesome with her and her boyfriend. I'm up for it, but what can I do to make sure things don't get weird afterward?
Leave. The best thing you can do is remember that no matter how much fun you have during the threesome, immediately after it's Couple Time. They asked you there to enhance their relationship with each other, not with you. Go and have fun, but know where you stand and make a graceful exit.
Let's say someone asks you to do something you're not into in the bedroom; what's the best way to let them down gently?
Tell them you're so hot for them right now that you don't want to risk the moment on something you're not sure about. Then immediately redirect their attention with some lovely thing you're doing that you both know you enjoy. Bring up Thing You're Not Into at a less vulnerable time, without being judgmental.
There are times when, instead of sex, I'd just like my partner to go down on me. How can I assure them that I'm not trying to say they're bad in bed?
Bad in bed? Reassure them that they are the Going-Down Master, which requires much greater skill.
It's that time of the month for my girlfriend. I don't really want to go there, so to speak, but she really wants to. Is there a middle ground that can be reached here?
If she wears a pad, touch through clothing. If she's a tampon user, here comes some fun — outside stimulation with a hand or a vibrator. Hopefully she will concede to no oral sex so you don't end up like Carrie at the prom.
I need to know: Spike or Angel?
Faith. Dream big.