Lamar, 28

You know this interview is about sex, right?
No, I thought it was about cooking.

Well, it's about sex and cooking. What meal would you prepare for a sexy dinner that you hoped would lead directly to bed?
Chicken alfredo. Cream... Chicken...

What's the cream reminiscent of?
I guess, pleasure... eat, sex, sleep.

Those are my three favorite things in life! And beer is a close fourth. Do you believe in the power of aphrodisiacs? What are some sexy appetizers?
A lot of people in the Caribbean say that okra is an aphrodisiac. It's green, really slimy. It's a Caribbean thing to do a whole fish and okra. But it's not so sexy when you have to pick through the bones and stuff.

What's the best food to bring into the bedroom?
Homemade whipped cream. You've got to mix it for a really long time. Add some fresh strawberries. The fun part about it is making the whipped cream from scratch.

Mmm. Tell me more, Lamar. What food would you compare the female genitalia to?
What does it look like? Or what does it taste like? I've seen some ugly ones. I can't even describe it. There are some really cute hairless ones that are attractive I guess.

Why are line cooks better in bed?
If you can cook your partners their favorite dish, that's the way to their heart.

I've heard that people that work in kitchens are known for reckless behavior. What's the craziest sexual experience you've ever had?
I had a girl who went on her head once. It was a good time. She was on the couch and she just flipped over on the couch on her head. That looked really good.

The guy I'm sleeping with talks dirty to me while we're having sex. I'm a little more on the quiet side. He's said that he'd enjoy it if I were more responsive. What should I say to egg him on?
Just go along with it: "You love me baby?" "Yeah I love you baby." "You like this pussy baby?" "Yeah, I like this pussy baby." I've been in that situation before and I just say "yeah," because everything is good at that moment. If it's really good, that's the best half hour of your day, out of the whole twenty-four hours.

I'm in monogamous relationship, but my partner still insists on using condoms, every time. Condoms kind of impair my desire and pleasure during sex, and I've told him that. Is it okay for me to pressure my partner further to give them up?
Oof. That's a really sensitive one. The person is either trying to protect you or protect themselves. So I don't think you can pressure them, but you can try to figure out why.

I have a very regular masturbation routine and achieve orgasms very easily this way. But whenever I have sex, I'm too overstimulated to be able to orgasm. It's so intense it's almost uncomfortable, but I'm so turned on from the experience that I just want to go home and masturbate for days thinking about it. How can I calm down during sex enough to let my partner make me come?
Take control. Get on top and do reverse cowgirl.

I think my boss is into me, but obviously we work in a professional environment where it would be inappropriate to make a move. He has started to act angry with me as a result of the tension and it's making work more unpleasant than usual. How do I handle the situation?
Fuck him. It's not like you're Monica Lewinsky and he's Bill Clinton.

Good point. However, I do own a blue dress. How do you know when it's time to let go of really, really good casual sex that's not leading anywhere?
How do you know... when its time to let go... really, really good sex... You can't!