Sex Advice From Occupy Wall Street Protesters

Q: "My girlfriend expects me to pay for everything." A: "Tell her, 'I'm going through a financial crisis.'"

By Amanda Green

Dave, 32 

You're the most clean-cut guy I've seen tonight. Have you been able to connect with other people here?
I value the people here who are exchanging ideas. People here don't represent one corner of politics. There are all sorts of ideas. I made a sign, because I'd seen other people expressing their views, and I was inspired to share my own. People see my sign and talk to me about it.  

What personal stake do you have in this protest?
I'm protesting the collusion between corporations and government. A lot of people choose to protest one or the other, but I think the problem is both. It's not just bankers or politicians. There's so much power in their collusion. This is supposed to be a system for the people, but really it's a system for the cronies up top. It's keeping most people down. I know my ideas aren't perfect, but I want to see people open to changing their minds.

This seems like a good place to meet a politically conscious girl who rocks your mind.
I'm not the kind of guy who tries to hit on every hot girl he sees, but I'd love to have a conversation with someone intelligent. I got this awkward smile from one girl.

No girl was like, "I agree. Let's be friends on Facebook!" or anything?
Is it that easy? It that how it works for girls? It hasn't happened yet. I might come here again tomorrow, if I can find someone to come with me.

I recently started dating this new girl, and she's great. But here's the problem: she expects me to pay for everything. I'm struggling to pay my student loans and rent. How do I ask her to chip in more without her thinking I'm a loser?
If you really care about her, I think you should bring it up. Otherwise, are you afraid to bring it up, because you think she might think less of you? If so, maybe you don't know her well enough, or maybe she's not the right person for you. 

Do you think chivalry is outdated?
I don't know. Wasn't there this phase in the nineties when girls wanted to pay their own way? It seems like that may have faded a bit, but some women still insist on paying for themselves. I think most women are indifferent. 

Are you indifferent?
I wish it weren't an issue. We're in a pretty modern society. You should be able to treat a girl like a friend, and say, "I'll get you here, and you can get me back later." I guess the guy should pay a little bit more, but every once in a while it's fair for a girl to pay for stuff.

My good friend and I briefly hooked up over the summer, and things have been over for a while. But last week, I found out that while he was hooking up with me, he was also hooking up with other girls. Even worse, I found this out because I caught him in a lie. This is all in the past, but I'm still hurt. Am I overreacting?
I think forgiveness is a good thing, but it's pretty tough sometimes. You should stay friends, but it'd probably be a bad idea to ever hook up again, if you can't trust him. Treat him like a girlfriend.

My boyfriend just got this great new job and now he acts likes a different person. He's obsessed with status and material things. That stuff didn't impress him in the past. I know people change, but when do different values become a dealbreaker?
I think asking questions is the best way to get someone to open up. You shouldn't just say, "You're doing this" or "I don't like this." I think he might have some completely changed perception about what he does. Maybe he's really driven to advance at work and become an expert in his field. That's why I'd focus on work. Then again, maybe he's interested in someone at work.

My girlfriend and I are in a sexual rut. I feel like we're more friends than lovers. What's an easy way to spice things up?
It's easy to do the same thing over and over, so change your environment. Hang out with other people, or go to a party or club. Viewing your girlfriend from another angle and interacting in a different setting can be a turn-on.  

Commentarium (59 Comments)

Oct 04 11 - 12:07am
Riiiight

This article sucks!! Typical liberals.

Oct 04 11 - 12:14am
nooooo

Damnit Nerve, why'd you pick these idiots? YOU'RE NOT HELPING! Meanwhile the media goes apeshit over 40 fat Tea Partiers having a 'rally' over the guvment...

And "Riiight?" If you hate Libby Lib Libruhls so much, why do you spend so much time commenting on Nerve? :P

Oct 04 11 - 12:22am
Riiiight

because i love trolling.

Oct 04 11 - 12:31am
Riiiight

I guess somebody hasn't been paying attention to Nerve lately. Oh well, if you don't like " these idiots", then why do you come to nerve? Dumbass.

Oct 04 11 - 12:33am
Typical Liberal

I love this article.

Oct 04 11 - 12:18am
pissedoffcommie

I would take the protests more seriously if those people weren't there.

Oct 04 11 - 12:33am
happy commie

Sex advice from a bunch of hipsters that wouldn't have jobs even if the economy were doing well? No thanks.

Oct 04 11 - 12:49am
Amanda Green

Dave has a job. Lola and Holly are college students. Cesar will be a college student in the spring.

Oct 04 11 - 12:58am
happy commie

Yeah, but their still libs.

Oct 04 11 - 1:14am
happy commie

Actually, I can tell the difference between their, there, and they're.

Oct 05 11 - 7:01pm
happy commie

your so right.

Oct 04 11 - 12:36am
Ducking

Look out!

Oct 04 11 - 12:43am
Dea

Dave seems interesting, smart, and open-minded (and kinda cute), so props to him.

Sadly, I have to agree with the previous commenters that the others are idiots who are not helping the cause. Well, to be fair, the girls at least seem well-meaning and fun-loving even if they're ditzy and immature, whereas the third guy is just an ass.

Oct 04 11 - 12:17pm
uhm

yup. how can this site have an article blastic FOX for editing the one intelligent interviewee, then post the second two interviews? Seriously? Out of all of those people, this is the selection??

Oct 04 11 - 1:03am
Johnathan

at least these girls have a sense of humor and are supporting the cause at all. what are you doing from behind the internet?

Oct 12 11 - 5:34pm
src

I'm still trying to figure out the "Cats against groceries" thing. What is this supporting?

Oct 04 11 - 1:29am
Nina

Oh my goodness, I bet these young ladies were probably reeled into Wall Street from the fake RadioHead Concert posting, not for actual protesting. In an important protest such as this, its embarrassing to see our youth making themselves look like complete unintelligent, attention-whoring fools. Advice to these two young women...At your age, you have so much power when it involves speaking and commenting on our government. People WANT to listen about how our countries issues are affecting YOU! Use these opportunities in your benefit to create a greater country, not only a chance to have your photograph taken and posted on Nerve.

Also, what the heck is "Cats against groceries " supposed to define anyway?

Oct 04 11 - 10:27am
Bodega Cats

Big issue man. Makes me go ME-OW in pain.

Oct 06 11 - 6:31pm
FightOn

Oh Nina, such a victim of the big bad machine... We feel so bad for your lazy ass. Take a shower and get a job loser!!!

Oct 06 11 - 10:01pm
Anita Bath

Oh tay.

Oct 04 11 - 1:46am
nope

I have no idea why everyone is so hard on these people. Obviously some of that is trolling, but come on. Considering how young they were, I was impressed by Lola and Holly's advice. Except for the sexting thing--I really felt the generation gap there.

Oct 04 11 - 6:43am
Aw, c'mon

@nope,

You usually seem like a bright individual, yet you really have "no idea" why people are not so pleased with these folks? On international news, this gets coverage with the tagline "Taking their inspiration from Tahrir square", which is a little over the top to start, but at least gives the protest the benefit of the doubt in its seriousness. Then you have these clownshoes (minus the first guy) who show up to represent the worst of liberalism and make it all look like a joke.

Oct 04 11 - 10:01pm
nope

Yeah, I guess I was contextualizing this more in terms of "just another Sex Advice column" than "representatives of Occupy Wall Street." I can understand the frustration.

Oct 04 11 - 11:42am
stfu it's me

ya so, the skinny cat chic is hot.

Oct 04 11 - 3:27pm
Anon

HA HA. Because i want sex advice from a horny and bored scene kid and two girls who look they have lived in that cardboard box forever. Atleast the first guy didnt make a COMPLETE ass of himself.

Oct 04 11 - 4:45pm
Anon

I am Riiiight's gay alter ego.

Oct 04 11 - 6:11pm
Anon

Nobody cares who's who on here anymore.

Oct 04 11 - 6:15pm
Koch Brothers

Get back to work, sock puppet.

Oct 04 11 - 5:35pm
Kahloe

Did no one else find the whole "he can't read your mind ...or your clitoris" really hysterically witty?

Oct 04 11 - 8:24pm
TwL

This depresses me. A protest should not be a party. A march should not be romantic getaway. People in this country are really suffering, and those who actually have an opportunity to voice themselves are wasting it with these stupid hippie charades. A drum circle doesn't cull sympathy. Dressing like a fucking cat isn't a political statement. Talking about fake orgasms is so wildly insensitive given the socioeconomic intent of these movements. It robs those who are trying to build something of their legitimacy and gives ammunition to the establishment. Youth unemployment is at 18 percent. The economy needs to add 125,000 jobs per month just to keep up with population growth. It added 0 in August. That's: zero. People are leaving for developing economies to find work making $10,000 per year. Europe is about to collapse into economic chaos. Our deficit threatens to bankrupt the next several generations. Washington is so grounded in its polarized ideologies that it is rendered completely impotent. And these assholes, who are supposed to be there protesting the utter powerlessness that's befallen our generation, are sulking around begging for a lay? Can we all just pull our collective head out of our collective ass pleeeeez? Just this once? Please?

Oct 05 11 - 2:48am
lolwut

Read the first two words of the title of this article, consider the questions that were asked, and then consider why you got SO MAD that you had to post a massive block of poorly formatted text. pf;dr. Calm down son.

Oct 05 11 - 6:36pm
ap

TWL- Thank you. Seriously. I am appalled by this article. One of the best ways for movements like this (which may have a lot of potential) to be 'hijacked' is to paint it as a pseudo-rebel disenchated youth movement. Way for these morons to reinforce that.
And as for mr. jobless...way to put that one together; clearly you're being impacted by what people are really upset about, you're surrounded by it and you can't even figure it out. go you.

Oct 06 11 - 6:33pm
FightOn

TWL you're one F'd up loser. Get a job and stop your whining...

Oct 06 11 - 10:01pm
Koch Brothers

You tell 'em!

Oct 04 11 - 11:32pm
comma

Now watch some of them go to a job interview and get recognized and not get the job.

Oct 06 11 - 6:35pm
FightOn

If there protesting with this group I doubt that looking for a job is on their agenda. Losers!

Oct 06 11 - 10:00pm
Koch Brothers

That's the spirit.

Oct 05 11 - 12:20am
Fuck this

Call me a stick all you want but this does more to derail a legitimate movement that's aimed at giving a voice to those in need than any Fox News campaign could dream of. This is the left wing equivalent of misspelled Tea Party signs. Why can't anyone see their own fucking clownishness??? Those fucking fat cat pieces of shit in Washington and on Wall Street will read something like this and laugh themselves to death. I'm so embarrassed and so ashamed...

Oct 05 11 - 2:09am
Greg

Hells yeah, Riiiight!! You tell um libtards!

Oct 06 11 - 6:36pm
FightOn

Legitimate movement??? Nothing legitimate about it. You're just a useful idiot for Obama's reelection plans. You're being played fool. Wake up!

Oct 05 11 - 12:24am
Christ

Somebody from Anonymous please take down this garbage immediately...

Oct 05 11 - 12:30am
Finished

I'm done with Nerve.

Oct 05 11 - 6:38pm
ap

yep. me too. it's been fun.

Oct 05 11 - 6:49pm
Koch Bros

Good job, boys.

Oct 05 11 - 5:41am
popsy

When will America wake up and realise that you are all up shit creek without a paddle and taking the rest of the world with you? People in North Africa risked death to get freedom of expression and wow, look what young people in the US do with it. Dress up as cats and sort of hope that sorts things out. This article is so depressing especially as I have spent the last twenty minutes surfing the net to find some sort of intelligent and informative article in the US press on the Wall Street protests. How bad will it have to get before people get angry? Surely by that stage it will be too late?

Oct 05 11 - 9:31pm
FightOn

The problem is that the losers protesting have never seen what it is like to live under dictatorship. I wish they could all be shipped to N. Korea to see how bad it is.

Oct 06 11 - 1:53pm
Koch Brothers

Looks good. The communist threat is a little old though. Try throwing in some anti-muslim sentiments too.

Oct 06 11 - 3:31pm
FightOn

Nobody said communist except you. Dictatorships come in all forms and always end badly for them and the citizens. Obamas and Soros attempt will also end badly. You'll realize this after it's too late. Right now you're serving as our useful idiot.

Oct 06 11 - 4:39pm
Koch Brothers

That's better, boy! You get a bonus this week for mentioning "Obamas and Soros"! Keep up the good work.

Oct 06 11 - 6:37pm
FightOn

One in the same BOY

Oct 06 11 - 9:59pm
Maya Normousbutt

Cool!

Oct 05 11 - 6:26pm
Anon

Nerve, you let us down this time.

Oct 05 11 - 6:49pm
Koch Bros

I expect better material from you if I'm paying you $11 an hour.

Oct 05 11 - 9:29pm
FightOn

Here's some good advice; get a feekin shower and a job you losers! Nothing attracts like success.

Oct 05 11 - 9:59pm
Herman Cain

Don't steal my thundah!

Oct 06 11 - 9:49am
Jomo

The people on wall street right now are the most eclectic people because everyone is either poor, hungry, angry, sad, bored, horny, lonely, wanna see someone famous or wanna beast on the free food. Either way it's helping the movement becaus it's adding to the masses. Stop complaining and Get off the internet and go down to wall street, or sit outside your own chase bank.

Oct 06 11 - 12:59pm
FightOn

Sorry I can't. I'm at work. What's "work" you say? Doing something that I enjoy that pays my bills and builds the society you want to destroy. You should try it sometime instead of being lazy and destructive.

Oct 06 11 - 1:52pm
Koch Brothers

Good job, kiddo. Keep up the good work!

Oct 09 11 - 9:54pm
Cock Bratwurst.

Yes. I am at work. Therefore my political opinions are correct.

I work typically 50 hrs a week; I live in the south and there are plenty of unemployed lazy-ass republicans (lot of them smoke pot too unlike what most peoplein the northeast think the south probably has got them beat on that factor). just cause these lazy unemployed fox-news watchin' good-for-nothings not going out there protesting or engaging in society doesn't make them any better than these college kids.