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Sex Advice From Occupy Wall Street Protesters
Q: "My girlfriend expects me to pay for everything." A: "Tell her, 'I'm going through a financial crisis.'"
By Amanda Green
You're the most clean-cut guy I've seen tonight. Have you been able to connect with other people here?
I value the people here who are exchanging ideas. People here don't represent one corner of politics. There are all sorts of ideas. I made a sign, because I'd seen other people expressing their views, and I was inspired to share my own. People see my sign and talk to me about it.
What personal stake do you have in this protest?
I'm protesting the collusion between corporations and government. A lot of people choose to protest one or the other, but I think the problem is both. It's not just bankers or politicians. There's so much power in their collusion. This is supposed to be a system for the people, but really it's a system for the cronies up top. It's keeping most people down. I know my ideas aren't perfect, but I want to see people open to changing their minds.
This seems like a good place to meet a politically conscious girl who rocks your mind.
I'm not the kind of guy who tries to hit on every hot girl he sees, but I'd love to have a conversation with someone intelligent. I got this awkward smile from one girl.
No girl was like, "I agree. Let's be friends on Facebook!" or anything?
Is it that easy? It that how it works for girls? It hasn't happened yet. I might come here again tomorrow, if I can find someone to come with me.
I recently started dating this new girl, and she's great. But here's the problem: she expects me to pay for everything. I'm struggling to pay my student loans and rent. How do I ask her to chip in more without her thinking I'm a loser?
If you really care about her, I think you should bring it up. Otherwise, are you afraid to bring it up, because you think she might think less of you? If so, maybe you don't know her well enough, or maybe she's not the right person for you.
Do you think chivalry is outdated?
I don't know. Wasn't there this phase in the nineties when girls wanted to pay their own way? It seems like that may have faded a bit, but some women still insist on paying for themselves. I think most women are indifferent.
Are you indifferent?
I wish it weren't an issue. We're in a pretty modern society. You should be able to treat a girl like a friend, and say, "I'll get you here, and you can get me back later." I guess the guy should pay a little bit more, but every once in a while it's fair for a girl to pay for stuff.
My good friend and I briefly hooked up over the summer, and things have been over for a while. But last week, I found out that while he was hooking up with me, he was also hooking up with other girls. Even worse, I found this out because I caught him in a lie. This is all in the past, but I'm still hurt. Am I overreacting?
I think forgiveness is a good thing, but it's pretty tough sometimes. You should stay friends, but it'd probably be a bad idea to ever hook up again, if you can't trust him. Treat him like a girlfriend.
My boyfriend just got this great new job and now he acts likes a different person. He's obsessed with status and material things. That stuff didn't impress him in the past. I know people change, but when do different values become a dealbreaker?
I think asking questions is the best way to get someone to open up. You shouldn't just say, "You're doing this" or "I don't like this." I think he might have some completely changed perception about what he does. Maybe he's really driven to advance at work and become an expert in his field. That's why I'd focus on work. Then again, maybe he's interested in someone at work.
My girlfriend and I are in a sexual rut. I feel like we're more friends than lovers. What's an easy way to spice things up?
It's easy to do the same thing over and over, so change your environment. Hang out with other people, or go to a party or club. Viewing your girlfriend from another angle and interacting in a different setting can be a turn-on.