Sex Advice From Psychics

"I have this vision of two people sitting on each other's laps, face to face."

 By Colette McIntyre

Paul, 39

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So, how long have you been doing this?
To be honest, I’ve always had the gift of intuition — it’s part of the family. Both of my grandmothers had the gift and I think that’s why it’s so strong in me and my sister. Friends of mine kept saying, “Why don’t you advertise?” and I was like “Should I? I don’t know.” It’s been overwhelming; I’ve been so wonderfully surprised. 

Do you think your gift helps you in relationships at all?
It can. It will let me know if it’s right or not. I have a good idea whether this is right, or if it’s going to work or not.

That’s interesting! Have you ever been on a first date and automatically you think —
“No, this isn’t going to work?” Oh yeah. I think it’s as soon as I meet you, I’m going to know. If people come to see me and I feel something's not right, I won't allow them into my house.

Have you ever been hit on by someone who came in for a reading?
Well, I’ve had some. Yeah, you get these eyes and you get that feeling. But I always try to keep it at a professional level [laughs].

Well, if someone does want to pick up a psychic, do you have any tips?
I don’t know — because I would always keep that separate. I think it might get complicated.

The other night, I was having sex with my girlfriend and I called out the wrong name in bed. I tried to tell her that it didn’t mean anything but now she won’t talk to me. She’s convinced I’m cheating. What do I do to ease the tension?
You know what? You’ve been out in the world that whole day and had all these names in your head.  So, I would always say, firstly — I know the person that’s hearing it would be a bit freaked out by it — but I don't think they should come to a judgment immediately. To me, a name is a word. It’s not an emotion. I would look in the emotion more than the word. As a psychic, I'd be more interested in the energy and emotion of the word than the word itself.

I'm interested in exploring a pretty weird fetish with my partner. How do I broach that subject for the first time?
I'd start with a light variation of the fetish, and then, from there, if the person starts to feel it and enjoy it, say “Let’s go to the next thing” and so forth. A lot of people are afraid to try things because it feels "taboo" or "wrong." Try it! If you don’t like it, fair enough, go ahead, but you can’t judge it until you’ve tried it.

During sex, if I begin to touch myself, my boyfriend gets noticeably huffy. For some reason, he takes the fact that my hand is down there really personally. The same with my vibrators — he's constantly trying to get me to throw them out, acting jealous and telling me that he should be enough. How can I get him to relax?
Generally with women, a lot of times, penetration isn't enough. If he's feeling threatened — which is understandable — she should explain that to him. If he doesn't believe it or he thinks it's because he isn't enough for her, he needs to do some research. Then, she should teach him how to stimulate her while they're having sex.

Bring in the toys?
Exactly. Use your hands! Don’t just use your penis!

That's great advice in any context.