Sebastien, 27

Can you have a serious relationship on Second Life? 
Yes, but I have never. I haven't met the right person yet. 

What’s better about Second Life sex? 
It's better because it's the ultimate fantasy that's not inhibited by physical reality.


What's the sexiest thing about a Second Life player?
The purity of the identity that they have created. It's the true them. It's not held back by genetics or circumstances in life. It's what they fantasize about for themselves. 

What makes a Second Life player better in bed in real life?
Second Life allows you to think about what you want, and it shows in bed. You know what you want.

I'm really into Second Life, but the guy I'm dating barely knows what it is. I've tried to show him, but he doesn't seem that taken. Could you ever date anyone who wasn't into Second Life, or is it a dealbreaker?
At first, it’s not a dealbreaker, but generally the things I look for in real life, in a guy, should make him open to it eventually. I can't imagine someone fitting my standard and not being open to it. I like a person who is open to the digital revolution and the advancements that it entails, or at least interested in it.

My boyfriend and I have been together for a couple years, and have fallen into the rut of boring date nights — dinner and a movie. How can we spice it up?
If you've been together for a couple of years, shouldn't conversation be enough? Shouldn't you be able to talk about how bored you are? You should. Talk to him. 

My boyfriend is a good bit younger than me. We work very well together when we're alone, but sometimes it's tough when we go out — he's usually broke, and his friends are still reliving college. Should I be dating someone my own age? Or is it okay that we have separate social lives? 
It's okay. Use it as a challenge to get creative and find things that can fit both of your financial situations. I've been in this kind of situation, and that's what I did. In fact, getting creative can be more fun than doing the socially prescribed activities that cost money. 

My boyfriend is still great friends with his ex-boyfriend, and they hang out all the time without me. It's hard to not feel suspicious or jealous. How do I shake this feeling?
Go out with the boyfriend and get an understanding of their dynamic. If there really is nothing going on, it should show. And you'll probably get a good understanding of what is appealing between the two of them as friends. 

My girlfriend and I broke up a few weeks ago, but we live together, and the lease isn't up until September. Lately, I've been wanting to hook up with other girls. Is there a classy way to bring them to my place?
No. Just no. Go to the other's place. Wait until September. No, that's stupid, don't wait. I guess it depends on your relationship with your ex. If you're friends with her and it was amicable she might understand. If it ended poorly, just don't. 

I feel my like internet identity — on Facebook, Gchat, Twitter, etc. — is very charming, witty, and fun. But when I actually meet up with my online acquaintances, I'm shy and introverted and it always feels likes my dates are disappointed. How can I transfer my internet poise to real life?
It's not about changing your real-life persona to match your internet persona. You should reflect on you who are in real life. Yeah, the internet is an outlet for you to do whatever you want and be someone you're not because you have the safety of anonymity, but if you plan on meeting on in real life, you should get the two to match.