Sex Advice From Sex Shop Employees

By Sarah Schwab

Coyote, 36

What’s the best reason to date someone who works in a sex store?
The discount! Ha, just kidding. There are a ton of reasons: sex education and information, a chest full of sex toys, a discount on lube, and a ton of resources at their fingertips. Also, since we talk about sex and sexuality on a daily basis there's a good chance we'll be more open to talking about it.

Is it wrong to date someone who works in a sex store for the discounts?
Depends on how good their discount is! Okay, yes, it is wrong. A casual one or two dates, maybe, any kind of real romance solely for the discount? Stop being a cheap bastard.

I was drunk last weekend and had sex with another guy. The guilt is killing me, but I don’t want my boyfriend to break up with me; I still love him. What should I do?
So (and this sucks) you should tell him. If you want there to be any chance of a future you have to be honest. He might break up with you and you'll just have to deal with it. But if he can find a way to forgive you and move on, your relationship will be stronger for it.

The girl I’ve been dating for three years got a large, ugly tattoo across her back without talking to me first. She made me feel like an asshole when I got upset, saying I had no say about what she does with her body. Who’s in the wrong?
Bottom line: it’s her body and tattoos are personal. That said, it would have been great if she'd shared her thoughts with you, so you could have at least weighed in. There's really no right or wrong in this one, just your feelings and her feelings. That big ol' tattoo is still going to be there any time doggie is your position of choice.

Sometimes when I orgasm, I black out for a few seconds. Is this normal?
When you say black out, do you mean a euphoric orgasmic-induced disco nap or a "where am I" moment? The body is complex but I haven't heard of orgasm blackouts. But who's to say what's normal? I'd recommend seeing the local sex-positive doctor to check in.

I went to dinner with this guy I met last week at the bar. We had an amazing discussion. When the bill came, we both reached for the check. I did it to be polite, expecting he’d grab it away. Instead, he suggested we split it. Is it stupid that this still bothers me?
It's not stupid, per se. It was your expectation that disappointed you, not him. He probably didn't even know you were hoping for the chivalry of yore. If you’re into him, you have to figure out if going Dutch is a dealbreaker.

Is it weird that I’m not turned on unless a girl’s vagina is completely bald?
Nope. What's weird is if you aren't willing to help her pay for the costly waxing or laser hair removal it takes to achieve bare beaver. Oh, and PS: the vagina’s the inside part, and therefore already bare. The vulva’s is the external part commonly called "the pussy" and usually is not naturally bare. Now you know – and knowing is half the battle.