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What makes steampunks better in bed?
We're creative; we're imaginative; we're adventurous; we're not afraid to bring a little science and technology into the bedroom. And we have brass balls.
I'm really into steampunk, but my girlfriend isn't. I spend a lot of my time doing related stuff — and so far, it's working, but I'm worried. Do opposites really attract, or should I find someone more similar to me?
Well, of course steampunks tend to like other steampunks because we really put a lot of ourselves into the lifestyle. However, I don't think it's necessary that both parties be steampunks for there to be compatibility. I do think, though, that if one of them just doesn't get it and sees steampunk as just childish dressing up or immature "make believe" then I don't think it will work.
My girlfriend has recently been exploring her interest in sex toys. At first I was happy to explore, but she obviously wants to go a lot farther than I do. Should I suck it up for her sake, or find a way to let her know that it's a little too much for me?
Well, I think it all depends on what "a lot farther" is and the comfort of both parties. If the girl wants to, say, shove an egg beater into herself and that makes you uncomfortable, I would say you should let her know that that isn't kosher for you. If it's simply a matter of trying new toys and things you haven't tried yet and you're simply not used to the idea of toys, suck it up and try it. It never hurts to expand your boundaries in bed a bit and try new things.
My boyfriend hasn't come out to his parents yet. It's becoming increasingly hard to take the next step in our relationship because of it. I understand what he's going through, but I'm getting impatient. What do I do?
Keep being patient. It can be a very, very difficult thing coming out to parents, especially if his family is religious or conservative. With all the stories of people being beaten to death or being disowned for coming out, it's very understandable that he's nervous. All you can do is support him, tell him you're there, and make sure he knows that you'll help him whenever he's ready to come out. I know some people who have never come out to their parents due to fear, even into middle age.
My friend and I are constantly attracted to the same women. I really like them and he only wants to fuck. They always choose him. Is there something wrong with me or am I looking for the wrong type of girl?
That's kind of a tough one. I can promise you that there is (most likely) nothing wrong with you. Maybe the girls you like just go for the more adventurous type who they can fuck. A lot of women feel more "secure" with the quick-fuck kind of guy because there isn't nearly as much fear of rejection, attachment, commitment, and emotional pain. You can do a number of things here. Firstly, you can keep pushing on in hopes you'll find the type of girl you like who does just want a simple, old-fashioned relationship. Secondly, you can think about opening up and being a bit more forward with these types of girls you like. Thirdly, maybe talk to your friend and ask if he can back down occasionally with a couple of them and instead be a wing-man for you and help you get the girl. A real friend would gladly help you do that. Lastly, there is always the possibility that there is something wrong with you.
I just moved in with my boyfriend, and after years of awesome sex, we've become a cliche. We actually don't have sex more than once a week. Sometimes, that's because one of us is out, but other times, we get in bed at the same time and just go to sleep. How can we get the spark back?
That's actually extremely common, but the spark is easy to get back. Try something new and spice things up a bit. Maybe plan a super-romantic evening that leads to a romp in bed. You can also try something new in the sack, too. Add in some simple BDSM elements like handcuffs and blindfolds, go to a sex shop and get the newest and best sex toy and try it out. Another thing that tends to work is to be a little adventurous. Add a bit of danger to your sexings. Maybe try fucking outdoors somewhere or against an open window. If you two are already really adventurous and are also very secure in your relationship, bring in a third party.
If "The Steampunk" were a sexual position, what would it be?
Probably something to do with exhibitionism, due to steampunks' adventurous nature. Personally, when I think of steampunk as a sexual position, I think of the girl bent over against a wall with her skirt hiked up in the back with the guy fucking her from behind, but that's just me.