Constantine, 62

Is the recreational use of Viagra a good idea?
Never. I mean, look at me. I don't need this Viagra. And if I don't need it, a young man like you doesn't need it. You should change your diet and exercise. I've been married for forty years. This is not a problem.

A reader letter: I'm a girl and my boyfriend is a virgin. I'm not. I want to make his first time special. I don't want him to think about my past experience. I just want him to relax and enjoy it.
[Audibly flummoxed] Is this how girls think now? I don't know, I mean this is along time ago for me, this thing. I was fifteen and one of the girls I knew was . . . a tomboy. She did it with me and my friend in the back of her father's truck. One at a time. Does that tell you how boys feel? I tell you, she don't have to worry about making the thing special. That is for the man to worry about. He probably just wants to find out what it feels like. Young boys — I assuming that he is a young boy — don't care for romance.

I'm a woman who is good in bed. I worry that guys only like me for that. I want a guy to like me sexually, but how do I make sure he doesn't just want me for that?
Well, is being good in bed the same as being easy? So she is good in bed. That doesn't mean she has sex more that somebody who is not so skilled. So how about showing some restraint. In my day, there was only one type of woman who would brag about her lovemaking.

The girl in the truck?
She was one, yes. Ha ha ha.

Is it okay to kiss and tell?
Yes. Is okay.

What's the best way to let someone down easy?
Is never easy. If she is in love with you, anything you say apart from "No, I never want to see you again," she will take to mean that you will love her again. So you have to disappear from her life. Is difficult.

A student from Kenosha, Wisconsin, wants to know: Are incest fantasies okay as long as I don't act them out? Or should I seek therapy?
[long pause] Please, I don't want to talk any more.  n°

Interviews by Grant Stoddard.

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