Rev. RavenHawk Ruane, 52

Is there any charm or spell I can use to make someone fall in love with me? And are there potential negative consequences of doing this?
Yes. Witches use charms and potions to attract love/lovers. Whenever you’re doing Majick, it is most important to ask if it is for the good and correct of all. This is vital as some of us are attracted to people that are not healthy for us.

Is there such a thing as sex magic?
Sex Majick, per se, does exist, but in my opinion, two lovers mutually willing to pleasure one another is Majickal.

How do you know if you love someone?
Well my experience has been a feeling like no other. Can't wait to see the other person. Wish to spend every waking...and resting moment with them. A feeling of walking on air. I have to share here, a lesson learned in my mid-twenties from my mentor, teacher and dear friend, Laurie Cabot. Soul mates are not necessarily meant to be lovers. So take heed.

Do you find it’s an issue when you have to bring up being a witch to potential romantic partners?
As a proud Witch since age 12, now nearly 53, I've always worn a pentacle and usually a crystal. At age 12 my nickname was Cosmic Kerri. This conversation comes up, usually, when I first meet someone. With my ex, who I was married to for 19 years, we knew within first three months we would be together. After three months of dating/living together he brought me to Florida to meet his family and on second day he announced to his Protestant folks I was a Witch. Well...mother spit her water out! After recovering from shock, she asked many questions. Each experience is an opportunity to educate. 

My girlfriend lied and told me her ex-boyfriend was out of her life, but he’s not. Is this a big deal? What do you think is the worst lie you can tell a romantic partner?
For me any lies are a big deal. Especially in a new relationship. I want a relationship built on trust. Telling me your ex is out of your life...well it makes me question what you're hiding. I know for fact one can be friends with an ex. 

I just broke up with my boyfriend and now he won’t stop contacting me. How can I get him to stop? This one’s tricky; it depends on whether there's propensity for stalking. A banishing/binding spell will work to keep person from harming you without causing harm to them. But it’s probably best to both do a banishing spell and contact law enforcement. That way there's an official record. 

What’s the best thing someone has ever done to you in bed?
Hmmm...I’ll leave this one at merely wishing to fulfill my needs and wants. Speak up folks! Tell your partner what pleases you.

Do you think there are clues for determining your sexual compatibility with someone before you actually have sex?
There are most definitely clues. I know when I first meet someone, say first moments, whether this is someone I'd have sex with. Many judge by astrological signs though so much more comes into play than ones sign. What houses planted were in etc. I also believe you can take an average lover and by communication make them a brilliant lover.

Whenever I go out to bars or clubs, I’m always too afraid to talk to girls. How can I work up my courage?
Girls, whether lesbian or hetero, like confidence. Know you're worthy of the one you seek. Carry a rose quartz. Great for self love and confidence. Visualize in your mind's eye you and the person leaving together.

What’s a first-date dealbreaker for you?
Haha, first date deal breaker...I used to be shallow in that the type of shoes a person was wearing could be a turn-off. Now, today, it would have to be extreme self-centeredness: Someone who is only interested in sharing about themselves, but asks no questions or takes time to know me. Also, I have three children from 19 years of marriage. They're huge part of my life so the person has to be open to my family. 

I don’t know how to end a date in a smooth way. How can I tell if a girl wants me to kiss her or not?
I believe we can tell how a date went based on exchanging energies. There's nothing wrong with leaning in for a kiss. She’ll let you know by either meeting your lips with hers or giving you the dreaded cheek. Please boys, no cramming your tongue down her throat, unless you feel hers first. There's someone out there for everyone. Failed relations are not failures but stepping stones.