Savage Love: I love women, but I'm afraid to talk to them. How can I get over my shyness?

Here's my problem: I love women. I love the way they look, I love the way they move, I love the way they sound. I like to see them naked.… Dan Savage | 09.1.2010 | Comments (13)

Savage Love: I finally lost my virginity, and I was underwhelmed. What did I do wrong?

I lost my virginity last night. I'm a straight male in my early thirties, so it was about time. It wasn't awkward, and we had… Dan Savage | 08.25.2010 | Comments (24)

Savage Love: I have intense fantasies about cheating on my girlfriend — with a man. How can I stop mind-cheating?

My boyfriend and I are straight college students, and he’s always wanting to try new things. Recently, he asked to put a finger in my… Dan Savage | 08.18.2010 | Comments (12)

Savage Love: Dan's eternal advice for hard-up teenage boys.

Longtime reader, first-time mailer. A long while ago, you wrote an incredible piece of general advice for teenage boys. The advice was so… Dan Savage | 08.11.2010 | Comments (6)

Savage Love: I want a threesome, but I'm worried about what my boyfriend will think.

My boyfriend and I have "history." We dated casually and weren't ready to stop seeing other people, so we had an open… Dan Savage | 08.4.2010 | Comments (9)

Savage Love: If all men are allowed to watch porn, why can't I?

Ever since hearing you say on your podcast that all men use porn, I have had a burning question: what about us women? If all men get a pass… Dan Savage | 07.28.2010 | Comments (57)

Savage Love: My boyfriend's favorite YouTube videos are freaking me out.

I was recently told that I am being puritanical and self-righteous because I can't get over the fact that my partner spends a good deal… Dan Savage | 07.21.2010 | Comments (9)

Savage Love: I accidentally IM'd a porn link to my boss. How do I clear the air?

My boss/CEO lives and works in a different city, but most of her mail arrives at my office because it is the company's official address.… Dan Savage | 07.14.2010 | Comments (9)

Savage Love: I love my boyfriend — why do I keep cheating on him?

My husband of eight years confessed to wanting to watch me with another man. I asked if he meant it. He said yes. I asked if he wanted me to… Dan Savage | 07.7.2010 | Comments (27)

Savage Love: The noises my boyfriend makes in bed are a huge turn-off. How do I get him to stop?

I am a married white guy in my fifties. My wife and I do some role-playing where I am "Ted," her real-life father. In her script, I… Dan Savage | 06.30.2010 | Comments (6)