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Brad, 21, coffee shop manager
Brent, 23, government clerk
Brad has been dating his partner Brent for six months. Brent declined to be interviewed because he isn't out to his family. Brad is a self-described recovering gold-digger.
Brad: I get what I want. When I was nineteen, it was like a game to get whom and what I wanted. When I met someone older and I could tell they had money, I'd make myself available to them. I'd get them to come over to me rather than going over to them. It was great. I didn't want to pay my bills, and I wanted clothes. Everything I wanted, I got it, and all I had to do was screw him. The oldest guy I dated was a forty-six-year-old lawyer. I'd go to his house, we'd have sex three times and that was it.
I made sure they got me the best. I wasn't going to screw a guy to go to Wal-Mart. I love Gucci. Just go in and say, "I want this, I want that." I'd blow $1,400 at one store. Of course, if they were paying for me, I didn't feel like I could say no to sex. The richest guy I ever dated was related to royalty in Spain. He got $19.2 million on his twenty-first birthday. I was almost willing to go against all my morals and be "the best friend," be in the closet for this guy, just for the money. But I snapped out of it. Well, he gave me diamond earrings, and then I snapped out of it.
But it's like an addiction. When I started trying to pay my own way, it was so hard. I had run up credit cards because I thought there would be someone to pay them off. And at my job, I used to be able to spend whatever I made. Now it all goes to bills. But I have so much more respect for myself now.
I know my feelings for Brent are real because he was dirt-poor when I met him. He and I lived off my income. Then he finally got a job, and he just got a promotion so he's making almost as much as me now. I think he got used to having me pay for things because now he forgets to offer. We'll just sit there with the check on the table. I've been scraping by for so long that I want to be taken care of again. I'm ready to be spoiled again. I'm waiting for it.
Am I a gold-digger?
Have you made choices that kept you from earning your own money while you've been together?
I've chosen not to make more money at a better job, yes.
Then, yes. To a certain extent, you are.
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Emily DePrang is a writer in Texas. She is holding Hair Mayo. |
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