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Jeffrey, 28, tech-support engineer
Jeffrey and I were childhood friends. We dated in college, but broke up after a year and didn't speak for five years. In January of 2007, I crashed his birthday party. It worked out.
How do you feel about the fact that I don't pay rent and bills?
I was setting up my life and my finances before I asked you to move in. So I was prepared to pay rent and bills myself, without a roommate, anyway. The fact that we live together is nice for me, and I think it's a nice thing that I can do for you, too. Has it made finances a little tighter? Yes. But that would generally be the case regardless. There's always something to make your finances tighter than they would be. But if you're doing a cost-benefit analysis, that's an incredibly small price to pay for how much happier and fuller my life is.
What makes someone a gold-digger?
I think the term gold-digger implies some kind of deceit. It's when it's more about what the person can give you than the person that you're with.
Do you think it's fair for me to choose to be a low-earner but enjoy the benefits of your work?
I have a pretty strict definition of what fair means. So I probably wouldn't say it's fair, no. But there are a lot of things that aren't fair. Is there anything wrong with it? No. Do I ever resent it? Of course not. This was as much my decision as yours, and we talk about finances and decisions together. But technically, it is an unequal financial arrangement.
If we broke up tomorrow, would you feel used?
No. Depending on the nature of the breakup. If you said, "So long and thanks for all the fish," I might feel a little differently. But only if you made it clear that you'd been deceiving me and using me, and that was why we were breaking up. If we broke up for any other reason, I wouldn't retroactively decide I'd been used this whole time.
What if I never make it up to you? What if I never pay you back?
There's no expectation that you make it up to me or pay me back. That's not what it's about.
What's it about?
Being in love and sharing our lives together.
Can I have some diamond earrings?
No.
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Emily DePrang is a writer in Texas. She is holding Hair Mayo. |
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