Question 4: In the course of this discussion many of you have pointed out the rhetorical inadequacy of vague notions like artistic intention, media influence and child sexuality. At the same time some of you have identified general problems that presumably can be solved -- Naomi, in her valediction, noted the need to protect children's privacy; Judith Levine decried the predominance of sexist, ageist, violent images in the media; Michael Medved suggested that our popular culture seems perversely determined to rob its young of all shreds of innocence. Let's put semantics aside for this final question and enumerate the more specific modifications you would make to the way sex is presented in the public and private sectors, if you could change things as you wished, to make this country a better child-rearing environment ( . . . realizing, of course, that child-rearing is not the only purpose of our culture). |
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To try and say something about changing the way sex is presented -- I have a couple of thoughts. The first is that we need to talk about sex
and sexuality much more honestly. It is, on many levels, our most
favorite subject: on television, in books, films, theater, at home. And
yet we talk about it as though it was just discovered. Until we can admit
our desires, out discomfort, our fantasies and the depths of our
quandary, not much progress will be made.
One of the many complications is our ongoing failure to take responsibility for both the protection and the education of our children. We pretend that we are a society that values children greatly -- we're lying. We need to stop intertwining the sexuality of adults with the sexuality of youth, allow children and teens their own growth and development, and stop subjecting them to our aged neuroses -- our obsession with the cult of youth. If we stop using youth as a measure, as a sales pitch, consuming it as a last ditch effort to shore ourselves up in what is ultimately a pathetic display of our failing egos, that would be a starting place. Adults need to grow up and act like adults and children need a safe place to be able to act like children. As I write this, I feel like someone's grandmother -- like I am lecturing, hitting the most obvious notes. And yet as many recent experiences hasve shown us, these are subjects that no one wants to discuss, that no one wants to take responsibility for. Why? I look forward to hearing what the others have to say. |
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