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Reader Feedback on "Playgirl's Queer Canard"
Your article really disheartened me. There are already so, so many magazines (and other readily-available resources) out there designed to "titillate" men, both straight AND gay! "Cosmopolitan," one of the "other" purported magazines oriented toward women, is so "soft" it can scarcely be classified as women's erotica at all! Gay men will undoubtedly continue to use this magazine (Playgirl) as a relatively "safe" vehicle for their own voyeuristic entertainment. It saddens me to realize that, as always seems to be the case, men are dictating what we as women may experience, and enjoy, from a sexual standpoint. That all the really "important" decisions are made, and content controlled, by men is pretty obvious, with or without relying on "feminine" intuition. Men in general (straight and yes, gay as well!) are usually clueless when it comes to understanding a woman's erotic makeup, or at best they make "educated guesses" taken from their own male perspective which are usually off the mark. What stimulates most men will not necessarily do the same for women, at least not in the same manner. And certainly what is appealing to a gay man will not (usually) have the same effect on a woman. A woman's sexual "psyche" is more complex, overall, than a man's. Visual stimulation, important as it is, is but one among a number of key elements which contribute to the "arousal factor" in most females. Women understand this. Most often, men do not. Women are complicated creatures -- and that's part of their allure -- for men! We KNOW what we like -- but reserve the right to "change" our minds from time to time! And depending on our current mood - we may "drool" over a really muscular "hunk" one moment, and then be reduced to "puddles" over a guy with "boyish" charm -- and dimples! (I DON'T think men will ever quite figure out these little "peculiarities" in our natures.)
Yes -- "Playgirl" was truly unique -- a bold and daring concept in the field of "adult" entertainment. Here was a magazine that FINALLY admitted that women (yes, even NICE women!) have sexual fantasies too! About men! That perhaps we might even ENJOY seeing good-looking men SANS clothing, just the way men have always viewed pretty women, both furtively and openly, since time began! So it saddens me to learn (what I've suspected for some time) that men are still dictating what we as women are supposed to find desirable -- in order to "please" themselves!!
--ml
09/23 |
I interested in doing a lay out for play girl could you tell me what I need to do to get started.
Cpricestar@aol.com
Thanks.
Chad
--CP
03/27 |
Judy, you summed it up all beautifullly. Congrats for your insight . . .
--BN
05/21 |
Congratulations to Judy Cole on stating what needs to have been said. I am a gay man who lives in Middle America. Those of us who grew up in places far from the Big Three (New York, L.A. and San Francisco) did not grow up with the gay role models and gay themes others did. I have never had the first problem with Playgirl playing to a feminine audience, because it serves its nudity and content in a fashion I find more palatable than in magazines geared to gay audiences. I don't like porno, and I don't like fetishes, and for those reasons ninety percent of gay magazines leave me cold. I also get the fact that a bigger audience culled from women and gay men makes for a more profitable, thus higher quality, magazine. I don't think gay men outside the Big Three are bothered by Playgirl's catering to women because we are less hypocritical. I have a best friend in San Francisco who lectures me about living out, loud and proud. Yet he and his lover won't hold hands anywhere in the city outside of the Castro District. I love to visit a website where gay men discuss nudity in mainstream films, and there's even a site for contributions to a continuing story concerning men being denuded. But continually someone must make the story all-out pornographic, with b.j.'s, humping and pumping, and straight men being converted to homosexuality through rape. Which brings me back to why I love Playgirl. It allows me to fill in the blanks and takes a kinder, gentler approach to nude men. If I had any request at all for Playgirl, it would be that they would please make films of their models with storyline and content, not just lifestyle flicks. It would be great to see someone like Scott Layne in a story about a relationship where - unlike mainstream movies - we get frontals. Keep up the good work and don't give in to the criticism of others.
--RM
05/20 |
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