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Very primal - like the way the male lion bites the female on the back of the neck during mating. Tell the author to be cautious - I had my front tooth knocked out when i was slapped across the face by my boyfriend. But then, he was angry and it was more like a slam, but still, i suppose that's still a risk.
--js
05/15 |
wow. GREAT! Interesting POV, and HOT.
--STR
03/28 |
to lbf, who asks, desperately, it seems "where do I find a lover like Jack?" a little hint: Everywhere. The others might not write as well about sex as does Jack, (usually, they don't write that much at all) but hey, they still can be excellent in (and out of) bed :-)
--sk
03/12 |
Hitting anyone, regardless of gender, in the face during sex without their permission? Um, NO. Worst, most tasteless piece of crap I've ever read on Nerve.
--BH
02/27 |
it's one thing to test the waters of pain as an experiment, in such a way that your partner can say "stop" before any harm is done. and it's one thing to cause pain, injury, or in rare circumstances, even death, when full prior consent has been given. but it is another thing entirely to hurt someone all of a sudden with neither permission nor warning. we all know that being legalistic and getting explicit permission before a sex act can kill the moment -- and that it marks that act as something less risque than were it totally without boundaries. but a skilled lover knows how to grant and solicit consent in a sexy, innuendo-filled, non-mood-killing way, and in a way that preserves the exhilaration of lifting taboos. i wonder what em and lo would say about this.
slapping someone on the ass is unlikely to cause serious damage; slapping someone hard on the face can cause damage ranging from a black eye to permanent spinal injury. no matter how trusting your partner and how deep your relationship, it is never advisable to risk such injuries without some form of consent.
in this case, it turned out she wanted and enjoyed it, and that presumably she was not injured. you got lucky. but how would you feel if you had accidentally busted your lover's nose? how would you feel if it turned out you were one in a long string of abusive lovers? how would you feel if it was all fine at first, but later your lover had decided to press charges (which can happen even in the most trusting, decades-long relationships)? this isn't about being a femi-nazi; this is about covering your own ass.
before you roll the dice again, picture your lover with her jaw wired shut for a year. picture going to prison for assault. if that's those are risks you are willing to take, go ahead and congratulate yourself for successfully testing your limits, and for your intuition into women's repressed masochistic desires. yes, you grew as a result of this experience, and yes, many women have masochistic desires that they would secretly like a lover to address. but neither of these is sufficient justification for an uninvited sock to the kisser.
--dmb
02/18 |
Sexy, sexy, sexy! Too many people cannot differentiate between sex and violence and this essay is a perfect example of how sex, the act of sex, the sanctity of sex is 'alternatively' expressed. I also liked the slight mental note of social conditioning.
--wu
02/14 |
I once had a boyfriend I trusted a lot. Then he started to slap me. I got a nice restraining order. Now, I look for a boy with a slight sadist side that's more concerned with my pleasure from the act than his own. If any man ever proceeded without asking, I'd make him rue the day he was born. Nobody will ever touch my face again.
--LA
02/09 |
I now have a new favorite bedtime story.
*sigh* If my boyfriend had an inkling of a streak of
such passionate urges I would be a happy, happy girl.
--ADP
02/07 |
where do i find a lover like jack??? a man who is gentle and sexy and not a lifstyler (s/m b&d) who is secure enough is himself to follow his impulses. it's incredibly hot that you found your way to the slap. . . and clearly your partner agreed. we seem to live in this sanitized world where even our sex llives have to be labeled. you are either p.c. or transgressive. . . i just want all the rules to dissolve. thanks Jack. it's good to have you back here at nerve. the quality of your writing was missed. i look forward to reading more or you. soon please.
--lbf
02/07 |
Next time someone slaps you, honey, I dare you not to get pissed and slap them back. And as for getting "any play," anyone who uses the phrase "feminazi gargoyles" isn't.
--KAC
02/07 |
So all lesbians are ergo sexually repressed? Great logical argument from the anti-"feminazi gargoyle" side. 9_9 If ya don't like violence and/or dicks, ladies, you must be frigid! Because _everyone_ who likes sex likes violence and dicks, dontcha know.
--FG
02/06 |
And voila - genesis, something new to do in bed. For those of you who are repulsed by something so mildly violent I say get a grip and own up to the fact that there is, infact, a certain semblance of violence in all sex (some pop song, right?). I had a regular booty call for awhile who kept asking me to choke her (and if I wouldn't she'd try to punch me). I had another one who just wanted me to pull out and cum on her face. That was HER big thrill. People tend to be with people who share their likes and dislikes in bed, and this is a good example furnished with excellent diction and imagery. Sure, feminazi gargoyles would disagree, but they don't get any play anyway, and if they do then you can be certain they're too sexually repressed to even consider a penis for it.
--GC
02/05 |
Ugh. Nerve just keeps getting worse and worse. Em and Lo, where art thou?
--:(
02/03 |
I understand that some people are into, so don't think I'm passing judgement, but I was slapped while fucking, you could bet I'd grab the nearest object, slam it into his skull followed by a "What the FUCK do you think you're doing?!?" Nobody hits me.
--CLA
02/03 |
The first time I was smacked I was shoked. But then hey, it's a thrill. It was somethin "not normal" for me. But I liked it. Slappage is good. Slappage is very nice, in small doses. Like icing on some kind of kinky sex cake. Blowing out those trick candles and whatnot.
--D
02/02 |
exactly perfect. first time, every time.
--a
02/02 |
Ewww. Who are you people?
--M
02/02 |
I have enjoyed some playful spanking with several sex partners in the last several years--the web site askmen.com even has a segment on how to playfully spank your woman during sex. One babe was on top, her nipples rubbing my chest as we kissed, my hands grasping her firm bare buns before I slapped them several times before I entered her. She slapped me several times spurring us on for a very frantic wild noisy screwing that was very arousing! Many women have fantasies of massaging and spanking their sex partner while giving head before they turn around and look back, saying Oh baby, take me doggie style right now, do me good and do me deep!!! Light S&M must be consensual.
--RTK
02/02 |
I don't know, but this kind of sounds fucked up... Nerve, why'd you use a picture with a woman's hand? It gives a very different, much less disturbing first impression than if we saw a man's hand giving that slap, like in the story. Also, the pretentious, cutesy literary vocabulary -- "adumbration" ! -- says to me that he's trying to abstract his way out of tough judgement. This phony piece just adds insult to the, you know...
--wbs
02/02 |
I caressed gently; I licked, I tongued delicately. She said, flatly, "Hurt me. I want you to draw blood." I didn't know what to do. Scared of this--what was I setting loose? I bit. Harder, harder, harder, my teeth broke skin, she cried out, harder. She showered to wash off invisible filth. She said, "Last night never happened. We will never talk about it."
--G
02/02 |
coincidence that this posted on Superbowl Sunday? sure, could be. just an observation.
--tm
02/02 |
extra ordinary
if the photo with the article matched the situation described, it would help visualize the transaction.
--bw
02/02 |
Oh, how long the road to an understanding of what is not just possible, but permissible, nay desired. Some are comfortable speaking of the unspeakable afterward; others pretend it never happened. Que lastima.
--TR
02/02 |
ah Jack, how you have been missed. "Adumbration" of my heart singing.
----sj
02/02 |
I don't think the moment needs to remain private. There's a way of writing about what's private that will let it stay private, too. That having been said, I agree that I don't feel like there's a heart to any of this. Too bad, since a slap, in fact, makes for a great story.
--cla
02/02 |
Are there some moments of intimacy that should remain private? Did we really learn anything, or add to our understanding of human nature, by reading this? I think not.
--pm
02/02 |
so there i was, reading this about the "slap", and i was taken back to a few weeks ago, when i was in a similar situation. my hands grabbed hers tight, as they were snug tight behind her head, we too, are kin to the intimacy; relinquising each of our powers to the other, while maintaining control to gain the push and pull of the evenings festivities. Grabbing her hands and slapping her on the ass, without letting her reach to appease the reddened heat, i said "stop it".
she did.
--PC
02/02 |
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