Awesome, as always.
Another suggestion for "Happy Healthy" - why not get tested together? It's an awkard date, to be sure, but it puts the "Hey, let's take care of each other and ourselves" context in there rather than the "I can't trust other humans" context.
--JP
11/15 |
As for this:
"I want whomever I sleep with to have an AIDS test first and tell me the result."
Don't be TOO exclusive. What I mean is, it's not exclusively *your partner-to-be's* job to go get a test. It'll go over a lot better if you offer to go get tested as well.
And if you change partners, don't try bringing out test results that are a year old and say "but SEE, I already did it! I don't have to." Suck it up and go along, and make it a brand new, together thing *every time* =)
--LCB
09/18 |
Note from Happily Healthy:
Pretty much the first thing I did was get tested for everything and I am indeed, happily healthy. :)
--HH
09/14 |
to the girl who was cheated on and is insisting that her new partners get an AIDS test and wear a condom- Congrats on being smart. You arent being too strict. when 1 in 4 people under the age of 25 has an STD you need to be a little careful esp if you dont know them well. most people though arent going to have a hard copy of their results so you are just going to have to trust them, which really you need to do first of all before you sleep with them.
--at
09/14 |
Erin--bit of an edit needed on the second-to-last sentence in your first advice answer: "...this kind of happening is usually often to recreate."
--rht
09/13 |
I've had a girlfriend show me her test results (for more than AIDS) and point me towards the free clinic. Didn't take long for me to head there and get tested myself...
--CM
09/13 |
Erin,
Methinks your answer was incomplete....in a couple of ways. Most importantly, you neglected to ask if "Happily Healthy" has had an AIDS test. She's the one who has been sleeping with a guy who was simultaneously having multiple lovers. Secondly, it's my understandingf that the AIDS test will only show up positive as long as 6 months after exposure to the virus. If true, anyone wanting to be completely safe will need proof that their prospective lover has not had sex for six months before their test!!! Tough times we live in.
--mll
09/13 |
Happily Healthy is being a bit strict, and one sided. If her last relationshiped involved cheating her new squeeze has as much to worry about as she does. There is the possibility that he gave her more than a distrust of men. To be fair, she should suggest that they both get tested and share results.
--PE
09/13 |
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