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Dirty Young Woman- Did you know that part of sex criminal deprogramming treatment is trying to make sure the person's not masturbating to the taboo object of lust? Chemicals released during orgasm actually reinforce attachment to the fantasy object (or partner.) You're not a sex criminal, this is an adult you desire, but it is, as you know, unethical.
Here are some helpful hints to get over a crush you don't want to go outside your mind: 1) Your crush is a secret. You're entitled to have those. No one can read your mind, and the sex drive is animal, therefore, lawless. Don't write about it on your online blog, for god's sake. It may help to get it out of your system if you write out your fantasy about him and immediately burn it. 2) Remind yourself that the crush is not reciprocated. In time, this hard truth will make your lust fade. 3) Accentuate the negative. If he has no apparent flaws, invent them. Such as, he's a chronic premature ejaculator. He has a small penis. Or he's gay (closeted or active.)
--CK
06/07 |
Inexpressive - here's a suggestion and two ways to try to put it into practice: try journaling your feelings. Be as specific or as stream-of-consciousness as you want. Once you've practiced writing down the smarm then saying it could become less of a chore. Works for poetry, doesn't it? Now that you're reciting sonnets extolling your boy's vitues, you can (A) jump him with some of your mushy revelations when he's least expecting it so the confession is on your terms or (B) if he bushwhacks you, make him wait... start slow... then let that wellspring of tasty emotional goodness just flow.
--OF
06/07 |
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--jmf
06/06 |
Inexpressive: Head to Hallmark. Seriously. They have all kinds of cards with pre-written mushiness inside. (Real cards are better than on-line cards for this.) Pick a couple that best match your own feelings, and try giving those to your boyfriend. Or, if you don't want to buy anything, see if you can memorize one (or get some ideas from one) for the next time he asks.
--JCF
06/05 |
Regarding "Staring Down a Barrell" - I'm with the previous commentator on this one. This sounds like a typical therapy assignment, in which the goal is to help this woman gain some insight into her own emotional issues, and probably help her come to the realization that criticism is not necessarily going to be devestating. (Likely, that is why she was sent to a close friend, and not to a random stranger.) I'd be honest with this woman - she's in therapy after all, and clearly bumping up against the issues that she needs help with; now is your time to be helpful and, if she feels bad, she can take it out on her therapist rather than on you.
--TN
06/04 |
For staring down the barrel. Do you think that the girls therapist is aware of her inability to take criticism and is doing this to try to give her perspective into it ?
--AL
06/04 |
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